14 People Explain Why They Cheated On Their Significant Other
Cheating is always wrong, and any justification is not acceptable at all, but of course people usually have motives and those motives are often due to a lack of communication between partners, always remember this folks, communication is key, and just don't cheat, breaking up with the person is a much easier and less hurtful way to do it.
1. "The Lack Of Sex Is What Made Me Do It"
Well I haven’t done it yet. I think I probably would given the opportunity though. Basically we’ve stopped having sex. We’ve talked about it a lot and there doesn’t seem to be any resolution in sight. It’s pretty rough cause nothing else is really wrong. I think if I asked for an open relationship that would just end it (she’s rather conservative in this regard). I think staying with her is better for our child and honestly there’s nothing wrong other than the sex so it’s not like we’re fighting in front of the kid all the time or anything. I’m hoping to think of a better solution but reaching the end of my patience
2." I'm just a sociopath "
Because I’m probably a sociopath. It’s tough for me to stay interested after a few months. I have never started a relationship with someone because I was genuinely interested in them. There was always a need I wanted fulfilled at the time and they fit the bill. It was either I wanted sex regularly, or not to go on vacation by myself or spend Christmas alone, but never because the girl and I had something in common or she was interesting. After a while the person would assume that that we were a couple and because I liked the sex or companionship I’d just let it ride out.
3. "I thought I could get away with it"
Because I thought I was bored. Because I thought there might be something better. Because I thought I could get away with it.
Wrong, wrong, and seriously fucking wrong.
4. "She didn't care about my sexual needs"
I cheated cause I was really horny, I really loved my girlfriend at the time, but she had sexual issues and I had sexual needs.
Selfish? Yeah, probably. The funny part is she found out and didn’t really care, she actually didn’t mind because she couldn’t fulfill my needs in that area but we fulfilled every other of each other’s needs. So she said go ahead, but be safe and don’t let her know about it.
I only felt guilty after we had that talk. So I never did it again.
5. "I'm a drama queen"
My ex and I used to cheat on each other like it was a game. He was physically and mentally abusive and I was young, immature, and mesmerized by an older man. We had what I call the 3 Fs, fighting, fucking, and fun and that’s ALL we did. Super awesome highs and god awful lows with lots of sex in between. After he cheated on me the first time I cheated on him. Then we’d break up, get back together and repeat the cycle. It was like we were addicted to each and the drama. I had sex with more guys when I was with him then I did the entire time I’ve been single.
6. "I Stopped loving her and didn't have the balls to break up"
I cheat because even though I’m tired of her shit and her own cheating, I still find myself attached to her. I guess I still see her as mine, and it would be painful to know other guys are banging her if I let her go. But at the same time I don’t feel any loyalty to her, partly because of her lack of loyalty and partly because I resent her for some of the ways she’s treated me. Not to say I’m a victim – I’m not. One always has a choice to leave. Lately as my resentment has gotten stronger I’ve started being the asshole.
Next, I’m waiting to find another girl to form a relationship with before I dump her, so that I can make the process of dumping her less painful for myself (everytime I have tried, it has been extremely difficult as I am prone to anxiety attacks). I guess I just don’t want to be alone. I’ve noticed this one a lot in other cheaters, mostly females but some males too.
Finally, I just don’t love her anymore and I see her a friend, partly due to my resentment against her.
7. "Because it makes everyone happy"
My friend says he cheats because “it’s better for everyone in the relationship, it makes both parties happier, because him the male partner is doing his own thing and she’s happier cause she doesn’t know and gets the relationship she’s always dreamed of”
8. Her mental illness was too much for me"
Was married to a woman with a rapidly degrading mental condition (schizophrenia and Bipolar with bouts of psychosis/fugue states) and met a woman who was married to someone who turned out to be a deeply closeted gay guy. Long story made short, we tumbled into bed late one night at a work conference, had an amazing time, woke up the next morning and I told her, “I really don’t want to ever wake up next to anyone who isn’t you.”
She replied, “I’m all in”. 4 weeks later she moved from Kentucky to Florida, she had filed for divorce and so had I. I proposed the day my divorce finalized.
11 years, two kids later, we are happy as clams and our sex drive is perfectly matched. Will never cheat again as I have no reason to.
9. "He disgusted me"
I was 17 when our relationship started. I stopped wanting to be with him one year into the relationship, but he said he’d kill himself if I ever left him and I was naive. He’d badger me for sex multiple times a day, every day, and kept insisting until I just laid there motionless while he did his thing just so he’d stop the emotional blackmail (“If you don’t want to have sex with me is because you don’t love me and I don’t have a reason to live anymore”). He literally drooled on me while he fucked me.
10. "Our sex drives just don't line up"
Differences in sex drives are a huge, huge issue. And I found that out the hard way. My husband ended up having an affair because we weren’t having enough sex. It ruined the marriage and we divorced.
There were other problems, sure. But we were not sexually compatible and I was young and didn’t realize how important that is.
11. "I blame my addiction to drugs"
A guy offered to have a friends with benefits situation where if I helped him out, he’d help me out. We would fuck all over his house; in his garage, backyard, hotels, car, everywhere. It was great sex at first because he was so intent on pleasing me in every way possible. Turns out he was married with 4 kids and another on the way- which I knew at the time, but didn’t care about because of how addicted to drugs I was (which he could easily attain and gave to me for free). He talked me into having a threesome. His wife found out and hates me (I’m not even sure if their still together). I have no excuse for my behavior. I quit doing drugs cold turkey and stopped all contact with him and all the poisonous people in my life over 2 years ago, but I think about my actions everyday. I’m sure no one gives a shit but, I’m crazy in love with my current boyfriend. I only slept with the both of them for the first month of us “talking” because we weren’t serious or even dating, so I’m not sure if that means I cheated… Probably does, right? My bf and I have supported each other through all our tough times and he’s my best friend. However if he found out I would lose him. I’d rather hate myself for the rest of my life than be without the best man I have ever met.
12. "He became emotionally lazy"
He got lazy. Not physically but emotionally. We have a nine month old. I know its not perfect but I come home from work he’s watching some show he comes home he’s watching some show or playing damned clash of clans. I tried to stay so far away from the guy im cheating with now because I love my SO but Jesus, I’m an emotional person and if someone is willing to open up with me and accept this damn post pregnant body I’m sorry I let them. I regret it yes, I love my SO yes. But I enjoy feeling like someone’s prize. Like someone enjoys me and actually sees me when I walk in a room. I like it when he smacks my butt too… Added bonus there
13. The Distance
I always said I would never cheat. I broke that vow recently.My girlfriend or whatever we are now moved across the country a few months ago. Despite our phone conversations, I’ve been pretty lonely. In the meantime, a very close girl friend of mine has been having troubles with her bf. I’ve known her for years and we have always had a connection but both of us were always in other relationships so we’ve remained close friends. Several nights ago we both got drunk and had (great) sex. I felt so guilty about it the next day, though. I told my girlfriend I wanted to break up, but made up excuses as to why. We still talk but the other girl is sticking around and saying she wants to break up with her bf for me. This ordeal is giving me some serious mixed feelings.
14. "I'm not a relationship person"
I have cheated on almost all of my boyfriends/girlfriends, and I would have to say it just boils down to selfishness. I love the idea of having a relationship, but as soon as I get one I get bored and want out. Then, since I’m terrible at break ups, I cheat. Over and over again. It’s terrible, but I thrive on the attention others give me and I use it. On the flip side (not an excuse) I have been cheated on nearly as often.
This has changed recently, however, I have been in a very happy relationship for 6 months now. I did kiss someone early on, but we talked about that and my cheating habits in the past. I am eager to move on from them and change myself not only for myself, but for my loving SO.