AITA for Not Packing My Boyfriends Lunch in His Backpack?

AITA for not packing my boyfriend's lunch into his bag and backpack for him?

Damjan

Published in Interesting
7 Oct 2025

AITA for Not Packing My Boyfriends Lunch in His Backpack?

Are you obligated to pack your partner's lunch for them? A Reddit user seeks advice after their boyfriend expects them to not only cook, clean, and care for the dogs but also to pack his lunch into a bag and then into his backpack.

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The original poster shares that they already prepare enough for leftovers, but the boyfriend insists on this extra step. The community responds overwhelmingly in support of the OP, with many pointing out the absurdity of the boyfriend's request.

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People express disbelief at the boyfriend's entitlement, suggesting that he should be capable of handling this task himself at 42 years old. Some even go as far as to label the OP as a "live-in maid" and question the fairness of the division of household responsibilities.

The comments highlight the imbalance in the relationship dynamics, with many advocating for the OP to reconsider the arrangement. Suggestions range from setting boundaries to preparing an exit strategy.

The thread delves into deeper issues of respect, appreciation, and the true value of the contributions made by each partner in a relationship. The discussion serves as a reflection on the expectations and dynamics present in modern relationships.

Original Post

I (33F) live with my bf (42M) in his really big (too big imo) really nice house. He pays all of the bills besides my personal bills (phone, insurance, internet, car payment, food, gas, etc) which I pay for myself.

I wfh full time and take care of his 4 dogs while he’s at work. I do mostly all of the cooking and cleaning.

He does his own laundry, mows the lawn himself (most times) and on occasion will help with dishes or put meat on the grill for me. When I make dinner, I make enough for leftovers so that he will have something to take to work for lunch.

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I always put it into a container for him and then into the fridge for him to grab and put into a bag and then into his backpack the next morning. According to him, I don’t “pack his lunch for him and I should be”.

Am I being lazy and/or inconsiderate by not putting the leftovers in a bag for him and then into his backpack so that he can just grab it and go?