Redditor Called An 'Ingrate Brat' After Trying To Set Boundaries With His Aunt

"She lost it, called me an ingrate, a brat, a few other synonyms you get the point..."

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Published in Interesting
May 8, 2023

Redditor Called An 'Ingrate Brat' After Trying To Set Boundaries With His Aunt

It's always difficult to set new boundaries when everyone in your life is used to you having none. Most people are met with resistance whenever they try to set boundaries; it's a tricky but crucial step to take.

No one can live a free and independent life without boundaries since people love taking advantage of such individuals. Family members usually know you the most, and sometimes they know exactly how to get things from you.

They appreciate how easy it is to deal with you and hate losing that privilege. It's never too late to reclaim the respect you deserve; it's better now or never.

A Redditor who goes by the username u/UmbralApocrypha made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where he explained how his aunt doesn't respect any of his boundaries and expects him to go along with it. The user recently decided to set some boundaries with her but was faced with resistance.

OP's aunt called him an ingrate brat, and her reaction made him doubt how he handled things, so he decided to consult with the Reddit community. Scroll down to check out the full Reddit post, and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post.

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Here's the original post by Reddit user u/UmbralApocrypha:

OP recently started noticing that his aunt lacks respect for his boundaries.

OP's aunt snapped at him and had a negative reaction to his attempt.

OP wants to be treated like the adult he is, but his family never respects his boundaries.

OP feels he might be the a-hole in this scenario for the following reason:

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to u/UmbralApocrypha's post:

OP could have worded it a little better.

OP should have been more diplomatic in his approach.

OP could have found a softer approach to avoid conflict.

"Based on her reaction, this seems to be the most effective way forward with that sort of person."

That still doesn't enforce any boundaries.

OP has the right to stand his ground.

"...your phrasing was as rude as her telling you things rather than requesting."

The aunt should start inviting instead of summoning.

OP's aunt is making demands rather than plans.

It's never a good look when someone imposes themselves without asking first.

"It sounds to me that she reacted to the change in the power dynamic."

OP's aunt shouldn't expect an adult to be okay with that kind of behavior.

Some things are tolerated on Reddit, but real life is much different.

The aunt shouldn't expect a 28-year-old to need assistance buying shoes.

It would have been a huge waste of money.

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