Redditor Messed Up By Getting His Girlfriend Flowers, Causing Her Parents And Kids To Find Out About Him

In a story that highlights how even the most thoughtful gestures can sometimes go awry, a 46-year-old man recently learned a valuable lesson in timing and sensitivity. OP has been dating his 39-year-old girlfriend for about a year. She’s a remarkable woman who has recently come out of a divorce and is a mother of two.

During their time together, OP has been an incredibly supportive partner, spending hours helping around the house and working on various projects. Most notably, he spent weeks installing an extensive in-ground sprinkler system in her backyard.

Previously, OP had refrained from buying flowers for her due to her mischievous cat, which was notorious for knocking over anything delicate. However, after the cat was rehomed with the kids' father over the weekend, OP saw this as the ideal opportunity to surprise his girlfriend with a bouquet.

Excited about the surprise and eager to see her reaction, OP delivered the flowers to her house while she was at work. He placed them on the kitchen counter and left, imagining the joy his gesture would bring. However, things did not go as smoothly as he had hoped.

When his girlfriend returned home, her parents and kids were there earlier than expected. The parents, who had been babysitting, brought the children back to the house and encountered the flowers before she did.

This unexpected early return led to a flurry of questions from her family about the flowers, putting her in an awkward position.

Feeling mortified, OP later received a text from his girlfriend expressing her appreciation for the flowers but also her frustration about the situation. She explained that she was now in a difficult position because she had not yet planned to introduce OP to her parents and had hoped to manage the timing of that conversation herself.

Realizing his mistake, OP apologized profusely, understanding that his well-intentioned surprise had backfired. His girlfriend acknowledged that he meant well but expressed disappointment in how the situation unfolded.

OP has been with his girlfriend for about a year

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OP has been working around her house when the kids are away

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OP saw an opportunity to finally gift his girlfriend flowers

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OP's girlfriend appreciated the flowers but she was bombarded with questions because of them

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OP put his girlfriend in an awkward situation

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OP now feels like he messed up

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The girlfriend's parents and kids now know that she's seeing someone

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The girlfriend did this to herself

u/Agomir

At what point can you say that OP is being taken advantage of?

u/Carolyi

It's hard to see this ending well

u/that_one_wierd_guy

Sounds bad but possible

u/Jimmymcginty

OP needs to start asking questions

u/Burton83

This story serves as a reminder that even the most thoughtful gestures can sometimes have unintended consequences.

In relationships, understanding the context and timing of actions is crucial. OP’s experience highlights the importance of considering the broader implications of one’s actions, especially when it involves sensitive aspects of a partner’s life.

While he intended to make his girlfriend feel special, the timing of his surprise inadvertently placed her in a challenging situation.