Man Gets Roasted For Always Leaving His GF During The Holidays To Be With His Family

Everybody has felt the unease of having to adjust to a new tradition after being accustomed to one. For some couple, Christmas is always less difficult so far as kids are not in the picture yet.

You see, the stakes are much higher when your parents are grandparents. And even if it weren't so yet, it's important to recognize that families need to start their own holiday traditions or even adopt an existing one.

Every family is genuinely different. Although every method won't work in every circumstance, there are certain guidelines that can help individuals overcome the difficulty of handling holidays.

This includes the activities you engage in before and throughout Christmas Day at home with your family. Of course, part of your traditions may involve activities with your parents but the emphasis must be on your house.

The OP of today's story failed in that area as he always left his partner behind while going to spend time with his family who live across the coast. In fact, the OP always travel out to see his family two times a year - Christmas and 4th of July.

He works at a college, so he essentially has a school schedule for breaks. His GF wasn't happy about this arrangement though and you'll find out why as you read the entire story below.

The OP kicks off his story saying:

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OP's girlfriend has a small family and doesn't really have holiday traditions

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OP's gf made a comment about not having any of their own traditions because he's "always gone"

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They've chatted about the issue and she says she's glad he can spend time with his family

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I always travel cross country for the holidays. I might be the AH because I've never stayed home with my girlfriend for the holiday.

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story

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The OP should stay back and make some tradition of his own

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No amount of gifts can make up for being callous

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OP's gf is also correct in her stance

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The OP left this information in the comments

She's a mix of remote and in office. During the holidays she can be remote, so it works out ok.I did go for the holidays those years, but she said I should go so I don't miss out on my family time. She said I'd have better memories if I went and enjoyed my family instead of staying home and watching her be sad. I thought it was really sweet that she was encouraging me to spend time with my family. That's one of the things I love about her, she makes space for things that are important to me.

Most functional couples alternate between families

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The OP should have traditions that is just for the two of them

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This Redditor believes the OP is a narcissist

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She was unable to travel due to health issues

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As a partner, you need to set rules and boundaries that safeguard your family, your relationship, your spouse, and yourself. Redditors agreed that the OP wasn't doing what he's supposed to do as someone who has a partner but he was living up to standards on his family's side.

In the end, he was declared the AH, and you can leave your own verdict in the comments section below.