Redditor Accused Of Abusing Friend After She Told Her That She's Faking Her Traumas

College life is full of exciting and sometimes complicated friendships, and OP, a 20-year-old woman, has certainly experienced her share of both. She has three close friends: Grace, Matt, and Laura. This story revolves around an engagement, some dramatic reactions, and a bit of a falling out among friends.

Laura has always been very vocal about her mental health. She follows a lot of therapist influencers online and often explores different labels and diagnoses. While she has been told she has anxiety and depression, recently, she’s been delving into autism and ADHD.

Matt decided he wanted to propose to Grace. He had been planning the proposal for a couple of weeks, and OP was heavily involved in scheduling the after-proposal celebration at a restaurant. The proposal itself was a private moment between Matt and Grace, but OP helped plan the party that followed.

However, Laura had mentioned she didn’t want to be involved in planning the proposal because it reminded her of her parents' divorce. She said she might come to the post-engagement party, but she wasn’t sure.

On the day of the engagement, both OP and Matt forgot to check in with Laura. Matt was understandably preoccupied with the proposal, and OP felt a bit guilty for not reminding Laura about the party. Laura didn’t show up, and the next day, things took a dramatic turn.

Laura began posting online about how traumatizing it was to see how little her friends cared about her. She mentioned that she would be updating her followers on her trauma therapy journey and claimed she was now in a very dark place, suggesting she might have PTSD.

For OP, this was particularly sensitive. She was diagnosed with PTSD by a psychologist in her last year of high school due to a traumatic event that occurred during her first year.

Feeling frustrated and hurt, OP reached her breaking point when Laura called to explain how traumatized she was. OP snapped and told Laura she was being dramatic and that she had gotten exactly what she asked for by not attending the party.

OP had three close friends in college

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Matt and Grace have been dating for a while and he wants to propose to her

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Laura didn't want to be involved in planning the proposal

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Laura started making dramatic posts about the traumatic proposal

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OP is pretty sensitive to mentions of trauma and PTSD

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OP's friends have no idea about her PTSD

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OP now feels like she was a bit harsh with Laura

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Throwing around psychological terminology

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Why would anyone feel the need to check in on her?

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Laura didn't care enough to come

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It's only going to get worse for her

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It's time for Laura to grow up

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Friendship dynamics can be tricky, especially when personal issues and sensitivities are involved. In this case, OP is grappling with her feelings of guilt and frustration.

On one hand, she feels justified in calling out Laura's dramatic behavior. On the other hand, she recognizes that her response might have been too harsh.

While OP’s frustration is understandable given her history with PTSD, it might help to have an open and honest conversation with Laura about how her actions and words have impacted her.