Husband Calls Bedridden Wife “Lazy” After She Asks Him To Cater To Their Toddler Due To Her Condition
When asking for help during a medical emergency gets dismissed as laziness
A military woman (OP) recently posted about being called lazy by her husband while bedridden with a serious knee injury. And as expected, Netizens are determined to get to the root of such a comment.
OP explained that 2 days ago, her left knee began swelling severely to about the size of a softball.
She received emergency care where they drained the excess fluid, gave her a splint to prevent bending, and prescribed muscle relaxers and strong pain medication.
Unfortunately, less than 24 hours later, she had to return to the ER, as the swelling started again.
Just like before, her knee was drained. But this time, she was told not to walk temporarily to prevent a recurrence.
The medical team wanted to admit her but had no beds available, so she was scheduled for admission the next morning.
Now, it’s important to note that OP and her husband are stationed abroad on a military base with a small hospital that isn’t equipped to continue her care.
This means that OP needs referrals to go off-post for treatment. That morning, her husband woke her up, saying he was running to the hospital to work on her referral.
At this point, she asked him to please take their 3-year-old son with him.
Her reasoning was straightforward: their son hates sitting still and gets restless, which means he would require hands-on supervision, which her bad knee and strong medication wouldn’t allow her to provide.
However, her husband didn’t see things her way. Rather, he responded angrily, accusing her of just being lazy
According to OP, she tried explaining again about her bedrest orders, and feared that if something happened, she couldn’t stand up to help their son.
But he maintained that this was just an act of sheer laziness, and nothing more.
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Let’s dig into the details
OP explained that she recently started suffering from a swelling knee and needed referrals to get proper medical care
The next morning, when OP’s husband tried to leave the house to work on her referrals, she asked him to take their 3-year-old along. This got him upset
Apparently, he feels that OP is just being too lazy to take care of their son, and would rather shift responsibility to him
We gathered some interesting reactions from the Reddit community
“He should call family or a sitter, or take your son with him.”
“Men need to step it up and parent their children.”
“Quite frankly, your husband behavior and comments for a simple and reasonable request are alarming.”
“Obviously, NTA. It would be dangerous for both you and your son to be left at home at this point.”
“NTA…What is he thinking?!”
“NTA. He can handle the kid better than you can - your knee is destroyed and needs to rest.”
“NTA. He is treating the mother of his child and the woman he is meant to love above all others like this!!“
“He is the one being lazy. You do not need to be left alone with him in your condition.”
The situation comes down to safety and practical limitations. A parent recovering from a serious knee injury can’t physically manage an active toddler, especially under medication that causes drowsiness.
A majority of Redditors have also sided with OP, calling out her husband for being inconsiderate of her condition.
What would you do in a similar situation? Do you think OP’s request was reasonable, or would you have handled it differently?
