Redditor Asks If It Is Fair To Ask Her Husband To Sleep On The Couch During Her Illness Since She Did The Same For Him Before

"He says since I work from home and can nap during the day it's not a big deal if I don't sleep well."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• March 26, 2023

When a partner falls ill, it's important for the other partner to be supportive and understanding. Being sick can be a difficult and challenging time, and it's important for both partners to work together to ensure that the ill partner gets the rest and care they need to recover.

One way for a partner to be supportive is to offer to sleep in a different bed or room. This can help the ill partner get the rest they need without being disturbed by coughing, snoring, or other noises.

The partner who is sleeping in a different bed or room should be understanding and considerate of the ill partner's needs, even if it means sacrificing their own comfort. But things should be fair for each partner.

OP's husband recently had a bad cough and slept on the couch so she wouldn't get sick. Now that her husband is better, she has caught the same illness, and her husband told her to sleep on the couch because her coughing was keeping him up.

OP insisted that it was his turn, but he said it was too hot, and he needed the air conditioning unit in the bedroom. Despite the availability of a ceiling fan and box fan for him to use on the couch and cool nighttime temperatures, he claimed that since she works from home and can nap during the day, it wasn't a big deal if she didn't sleep well.

OP works approximately 50-60 hours a week and is taking online classes for her Master's degree, so she doesn't have time for nap time. This is her fourth night sleeping on the couch, and her husband has been waking her up every morning by waking up early to work out or surf.

The couch is in the small living room/kitchen of their 1-bedroom apartment, and the surfboards are also on the wall above the couch. OP thinks that her husband should be the one sleeping on the couch right now, as she is working long hours and has responsibilities that require her to be well-rested.

OP asks:

OP's husband recently had a bad cough and slept on the couch so she wouldn't get sick.

OP insisted that it was his turn, but he said it was too hot, and he needed the air conditioning unit in the bedroom

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

Redditors had some questions:

A relationship is supposed to be...

Not a big deal?

OP replied:

Sick person always gets maximum comfort.

How?

Yes, it is a textbook example:

Partners should face together

The husband is selfish

Two can play that game

Unfortunately, this is true:

It's also important for partners to be patient and understanding with each other during this time. Being sick can be stressful and emotional, and it's important for both partners to be supportive and understanding of each other's feelings and needs.

When one partner falls ill, it's important for the other partner to be supportive and understanding. This can include sleeping in a different bed or room, taking care of household chores and responsibilities, and being patient and understanding with each other.

By working together and being supportive, partners can help each other get through this difficult time and ensure a speedy recovery. It is a two-way street, and someone should inform OP's partner about that.

Damjan