Woman’s Effort to “Manifest Her Crush” On Her Colleague Ends Badly After Dad Spots Stalker-Like Notes

When a 22-year-old, who was "skeptical about anything mystical," started crushing on her lab partner, she turned to the powers of the universe. OP didn't believe that crystals could influence a person's energy but took a chance on "manifesting her crush" when it breached into ridiculous territory.

OP saw a TikTok video on how she could make her crush like her back. It was better than doing nothing about her newfound admiration.

OP did as the video instructed. She grabbed her Post-it note and wrote her lab partner's full name, followed by, "Will be my boyfriend."

She repeated this process 12 times. To hide her, in her words, cringe and desperate attempt to manifest her crush, OP stuck the notes on the underside of her desk.

A table wouldn't interfere with the manifesting energy of the notes, right? Months later, with her sticky notes still underneath the table, OP's dad helped her move to a new apartment.

They were finished packing when her dad flipped OP's desk upside down to move it to the car. OP remembered her sticky notes too late.

She was almost certain that her dad saw a dozen notes with her crush's name on them. She didn't see his reaction, and he hasn't said anything.

OP was mortified. She worried that her dad might have thought she was a creepy stalker.

ThrowRAgirlyy

Should she explain what the notes were for or never speak of them again and pretend her dad didn't see them?

ThrowRAgirlyy

The Psychology of Infatuation

Dr. Laura Johnson, a relationship psychologist at the University of Minnesota, explains that infatuation often leads individuals to engage in behaviors that might seem obsessive.

Research indicates that when people develop crushes, their brains release a cocktail of chemicals that can cloud judgment and lead to heightened emotional responses.

This can result in actions that may feel normal to the individual but appear stalker-like to outsiders.

Redditors found OP's predicament amusing. They also asked if she had tried asking her lab partner out instead of waiting for the universe.

Locotek

This would put OP in the stalker category. It wouldn't produce favorable results.

ACERVIDAE

The sticky notes filled with intentions reflect a common phenomenon where individuals project their desires onto others in unrealistic ways.

Studies show that this can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, particularly when the object of affection is unaware of the intensity of these feelings.

Encouraging individuals to develop self-awareness about their feelings can help them navigate these situations more effectively.

There is a chance that her dad didn't see the notes at all if he requires reading glasses.

symbolicshambolic

Even if he did, he might not want to be involved in whatever OP had going on. OP shouldn't bring it up unless her dad does, said the commenter.

Androidbetathrowaway, Wrong-Economics-4141

Healthy Expression of Feelings

To express feelings healthily, individuals should focus on open communication and respectful boundaries.

Research from the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships suggests that clear communication about intentions can significantly reduce misunderstandings and promote healthier interactions.

Practicing mindfulness and emotional regulation can also help individuals manage their feelings without overwhelming others.

Her dad not talking about it could be his way of saving OP from embarrassment.

coybowbabey

Could her dad be contacting Salem if he thinks OP is a witch? A woman who can write! Diabolical!

monkeysuffrage, Melkor15

If manifesting works, the universe is unpredictable and may give OP an answer too late. OP won't see any progress with her crush if she's too afraid of the possibility of rejection.

Is her lab partner even single? OP could be stuck in limbo, much like her sticky notes, if she doesn't pluck up the courage to ask her crush out on a date.

Or, he didn't see the notes at all because his main concern was Tetris-ing the desk into the car.

PunchClown

He could have been way too preoccupied with the amount of stuff they had to move to think of anything else.

Alfhiildr

OP implied that she removed the sticky notes but returned them to manifest even more.

GeeAyeAreElle, ThrowRAgirlyy

OP has nothing to be embarrassed about, but there are more proactive things she could do to date her crush instead of relying on the powers of the universe.

Flip122

Psychological Analysis

This scenario reflects the often tumultuous nature of infatuation and the challenges it presents in interpersonal dynamics.

Encouraging open dialogue about feelings can help individuals find balance and clarity in their emotional experiences.

Analysis generated by AI

Analysis & Alternative Approaches

Infatuation can lead to intense emotional experiences that require careful navigation to maintain healthy relationships.

According to the American Psychological Association, fostering self-awareness and emotional intelligence is critical in these situations for promoting healthy interactions.