Husbands Confessed The Exact Time They Knew They Had To Get A Divorce From Their Wives

Getting married is not for the faint of heart. It is the single most important decision you will make in your life because you must be absolutely certain that this person will stand by you through thick and thin and always be there when you need them.

As humans, we make mistakes, and sometimes we choose the wrong person to marry. This can have very negative effects on us and our families, and the thought of divorce is just too grueling because going through the dating scene again and finding someone new is one of the worst experiences imaginable.

However, for these 17 men, divorce was the only option left after trying several times to make things work. They shared their stories about when they knew that divorce was their only option.

1. Well, now we know she wanted attention from every man she could get close to.

"When my buddies approached me to complain that she kept sitting on their laps, wiggling, and hoping for an erection."

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2. Liar liar pants on fire.

"Fifteen years in, and I found texts on her phone. Completely blindsided... I had no clue she had it in her to cheat. She told me it was just texting and begged for forgiveness. I caved. A month later, I checked the phone bill and found that it never stopped. I confronted her again... Cue more begging and more denial on my part that she would let the life we had built go down in flames. This went on for a few months with so many promises. One night, I caught her on the phone when she thought I had left. Suddenly, it wasn't just texts; sometimes it was phone calls too... Just a friend she could talk to, but she let things go too far with him. She promised to break all contact and swore it was never physical. Then I found emails. She detailed things that made me sick to read... but also included descriptions of his house. She finally broke down but swore it was all just in the line of duty. That's how she met him, you see? Visiting nurse service, and this guy was a client. She promised she was done and loved me, you see? No chance she was going to let fifteen years go like that. I wasn't buying it anymore, though. She announced she was going out one night with a work friend. She promised they were only going to the bar and that she would be home—maybe late, but not too late. By then, she had taken over her own phone account but wasn't bright enough to understand that Google Latitude was still showing me where she was, and I wasn't about to show my hand. She kissed me goodbye and bee-lined right for his house, where she stayed until the wee hours of the morning. Once I knew where she had headed, I called her dad and my best friend to keep me from doing anything dumb. I will love them both forever for keeping me calm while my world went insane all around me. My father-in-law offered to stay with the kids and wait for her to get home. Around 3 AM, while couch surfing at my buddy's place, she sent me a nasty text asking where the hell I thought I was. I texted her a screenshot of her little GPS dot at her boyfriend's and let her know I would be sending her some paperwork soon."

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3. That's what you get for screwing your boss.

"She let me know she was pregnant and wanted my permission to tell all her girlfriends during a girls' night out. Since I knew there was no possible way it was my child, she was also unknowingly admitting to having an affair. (I can do math, and she can't). It was with her boss. I lawyered up the next day, and he ate her alive in court. I got primary custody of our child we already had, child support, and a sheriff's notice that she had to vacate my home in 30 days. I never knew she could be that stupid."

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4. It has been going on for a while.

"The morning I saw a picture of some dude's genitalia on her phone. She was classy enough to bring him to the divorce proceedings..."

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5. You can always trust a child.

"When my 2-year-old was learning to talk, he would consistently say another bloke's name. Apparently, he was there from the moment I left for work until I got home. I have been a single dad for five years with primary custody now."

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6. Christmas Eve of all days.

"Finding her, on Christmas Eve Eve, still sexting a co-worker whom she claimed she was no longer in contact with (having been caught sexting him previously, as well). I cleared out of there like a blackjack dealer."

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7. Well, what a wedding night that was!

"My neighbor's wife screaming 'Putana!' downstairs after she caught my bride and her husband having sex in front of the fireplace."

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8. She didn't give a damn about the ground rules.

"Preface: we were doing a trial separation. She moved into the spare bedroom of our apartment. 'Divorce' had been thrown around, but we still spent time together and slept together. I wasn't seriously considering divorce, but rather counseling, etc. Up until the day I came home from work at the same time I came home every day, and she was in her room being intimate with some random guy she met on Tinder. She had not told him she was married. I kicked him out of the apartment and made it clear to her that I would be moving out as soon as possible. Edit: I must add that she expressed interest in counseling as well. We discussed ground rules for the separation, one of which was 'do not sleep with other people.' Edit 2: Thanks for all the love. For those asking, I moved out because I couldn't afford the apartment on my own. I didn't kick the guy's ass, but I did tell him, while punching the door, that he had three minutes to get out of my apartment. I said if he wasn't out in three minutes, I was going to break down the door, and it wouldn't be to shake hands (proud of that line from enraged me; usually, I'm not very articulate when angry). He was out in a little over two minutes."

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9. Choose your friends wisely.

"When I found the letter between her and my friend about their affair and how she couldn't wait to be away from me so they could be together... yup... I knew then that it was time to get that divorce."

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10. He was busy saving lives and she was screwing around.

"She required a much more varied selection of partners than I was able to provide, so she went out and acquired them herself while I was stationed overseas in the Air Force."

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11. Here we go with the friends again.

"When a friend's wife said to me, 'You know your wife is sleeping with my husband.'"

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12. When she lies about your child's name, you know it is time to go.

"My son was watching Netflix on her phone with me when her boyfriend texted her. It was midnight, and he said he missed her and couldn't wait to see her again (typical, I know). I confronted her, and she denied it, saying that her friend's daughter was texting my son. My son is three; the daughter in question was two and barely speaking. Yeah, that was the time to go."

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13. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

"I was working on a mother-daughter scrapbook as a Christmas present for her. I was going through her Google Photos account looking for pictures of them together when I came across a selfie she took with some guy lying on her. I confirmed her second affair. I knew it was over the moment I saw it. That has messed me up pretty good."

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14. Well, that didn't last long.

"Months of no intimacy, secretly seeing someone 'as a friend' at her night job, going to stay the night at his house over the weekend, and finally, finding her saying she loved him in an instant messenger text. Also, forgetting my f***ing birthday. This was less than 90 days in."

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15. You know she's cheating when you discover you have STIs.

"I don't know, it might have been when the doctor told me I had an STI, and I hadn't had sex with anyone apart from her for many years and was completely clean of disease beforehand. Oh yeah, and a couple of weeks later when that pregnancy test came back positive, and we had been using condoms since the baby was born. A bit of a clue, anyway."

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16. Crazy woman syndrome.

"When she falsely told our marriage counselor that I punched her. The next week, she denied saying it and accused our counselor of lying. He gave me a 'You should leave this relationship' look. I took that look as permission from a professional that I definitely wasn't making the wrong decision. I got divorced and never looked back. I legitimately feared for my safety towards the end—not that she would hurt me, but that she would make a false accusation to the cops or a crazy friend."

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17. Doing everything for her, and that is what you get.

"Not me, but one of my best friends (I got his permission to post). He received a pretty substantial year-end bonus from work. He decided to use most of it for his wife's Christmas gift and to pay off her remaining student loans (~$14,700), with the remaining portion going to buy a new computer chair for when he gamed (~$300). On Christmas morning (he was nice enough to let me stay at his place when I traveled for work, as he lived 20 minutes from the airport), we all woke up and had breakfast. His family and her parents came over, and we started exchanging gifts. Besides paying off her loans, he had gotten her a few items. She opened the card saying her loans were paid off, and she just sat there for a minute. After the silence, and assuming she was kind of in shock, she asked, 'Did you seriously not get me anything else? I bought you that stupid keyboard (the wrong one, by the way), and you only got me a few things?' At that point, his brother-in-law and I decided to go hang out in another room for a while. They ended up getting into a huge fight. A day later, when he was dropping me off at the airport, he told me that he was going to visit a lawyer and get a divorce."

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