Tension Rises As Husband Informs Wife's Mother Of Pregnancy Without Her Permission

Pregnancy is often a time filled with excitement and anticipation. For one Reddit user, it was a rollercoaster of emotions, joy, and unexpected conflict.

OP's story, shared on Reddit, revolves around a simple yet sensitive issue: sharing the news of his wife's pregnancy with his mom.

What seemed like an innocent and joyous announcement turned into a significant point of contention between OP and his wife. A few days ago, OP and his wife discovered that they were expecting a baby.

This news was especially poignant and joyful for them because they had been trying to conceive for about a year after a previous miscarriage. Understandably, both OP and his wife were over the moon with happiness and excitement at the prospect of becoming parents.

In his excitement, OP went out to lunch with his mom and shared the wonderful news with her. His mom was thrilled for both him and his wife.

For OP, this seemed like a natural and joyous thing to do. However, when he told his wife that he had shared the news with his mom, she was immediately upset.

OP's wife explained that she wasn't ready for people to know about the pregnancy, given how their last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage.

She expressed her concern that if something went wrong with this pregnancy, now OP’s mom would also know, and she wasn't comfortable with that. OP, on the other hand, found it hard to understand why this was such a big deal.

He felt that since it was their shared news, he had the right to tell his immediate family, especially since his wife had already told her sister. From OP’s perspective, he didn’t think he did anything wrong. He felt it was reasonable to tell his mom, whom he is very close with.

After the conversation, OP’s wife was still very upset, giving him the silent treatment and avoiding him. OP felt hurt and confused because he believed he hadn’t done anything wrong.

Discovering the Joyful News of Pregnancy

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Sharing the News with OP's Mother

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Understanding His Wife's Perspective

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OP's Reasoning and Justification Of The Situation

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The Ongoing Conflict and His Perspective

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Reflecting on His Actions and Apologizing

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Addressing Concerns about Sushi and Pregnancy

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OP Should Not Share Those Kinds of Things Without His Wife Knowing

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Telling Immediate Family Members Is Common

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Keeping Information A Secret

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His Wife Should Call The Shots, Not OP

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The Pregnancy Is Wife's Medical Information

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After reflecting on the situation and typing out his thoughts on Reddit, OP realized that he might have been insensitive to his wife's feelings and concerns.

He recognized that, given their history of miscarriage, his wife had legitimate reasons for wanting to keep the news private until she felt more secure about the pregnancy.

OP took the feedback from Reddit to heart. He apologized to his wife for not understanding her feelings and for sharing the news without her consent.