Redditor Tells Her Friend She Can't Be Her Maid Of Honor Due To Health Issues, Gets Called Selfish

"She called me an AH and a selfish bitch"

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• March 26, 2023

Being asked to be a maid of honor (MOH) at a friend or family member's wedding is a big honor. It is a recognition of the special relationship between the bride and the MOH, and it shows that the bride trusts and values the MOH's opinion.

However, being a MOH is not just a title, it is a significant responsibility. The MOH is expected to help the bride with wedding planning, offer emotional support, and be a source of guidance and advice.

OP was asked by a friend to be the maid of honor (MOH) in her upcoming wedding, but the OP declined the request due to ongoing personal issues. The friend and the OP are not close, and they only spoke briefly over the phone in January.

When the OP explained that she couldn't commit to the responsibilities of the MOH role, the friend became angry and accused her of being selfish and a terrible friend. OP tried to explain that she and her husband are currently facing medical issues, and she doesn't want to let her friend down by committing to something she may not be able to fulfill.

The friend, however, refused to understand and continued to shout at the OP, calling her selfish and inconsiderate. The OP's decision to decline the MOH role was based on her belief that if she cannot fulfill the responsibilities, she should be honest about it from the start.

After the argument with the friend, some of their mutual friends reached out to the OP to ask for her side of the story, but others ignored her. The OP has decided to cut these people out of her life as she has enough going on already and doesn't need any additional stress.

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OP asks:

OP was asked by a friend to be the maid of honor (MOH) in her upcoming wedding, but the OP declined the request due to ongoing personal issues.

The friend and the OP are not close

OP tried to explain that she and her husband are currently facing medical issues, and she doesn't want to let her friend down by committing to something she may not be able to fulfill.

The friend, however, refused to understand and continued to shout at the OP, calling her selfish and inconsiderate.

After the argument with the friend, some of their mutual friends reached out to the OP to ask for her side of the story, but others ignored her.

OP added:

OP posted an update:

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

This Redditor wouldn't attend the weeding. Period.

"It may be time to burn this bridge altogether."

This is a good question:

The bottom line is:

No one asked, but here it is:

The OP's decision to decline the MOH role was based on her belief that if she cannot fulfill the responsibilities, she should be honest about it from the start. After the argument with the friend, some of their mutual friends reached out to the OP to ask for her side of the story, but others ignored her.

The OP has decided to cut these people out of her life as she has enough going on already and doesn't need any additional stress. We believe that OP made the right call.

What do you think?

Damjan