Woman Shares Her Entitled Mom's Response All Because She Wanted To Skip Thanksgiving

Family preparations for Thanksgiving often involve a lot of planning and effort. Many families have traditional dishes and activities that are passed down through generations.

In some households, the women are expected to take on most of the cooking and cleaning responsibilities, while the men often relax and enjoy the fruits of the women's labor. However, many families are now opting for more modern and equitable approaches to holiday preparations.

Some people may choose to cook together as a family, while others may outsource some of the cooking or order pre-made dishes. The key to a successful and enjoyable Thanksgiving is finding a balance that works for everyone involved and prioritizing time with loved ones.

OP's family gatherings are notorious for being overwhelming and stressful. OP's mother expects everyone to drop everything and attend a slew of holiday events, with the women shouldering the bulk of the cooking and cleaning responsibilities.

This time, OP and her sister decided to change the time of arrival and assert their independence. They proposed a mutual agreement, but their mom's reaction was far from understanding.

The situation escalated, and OP ended up saying she wouldn't attend the family gathering at all. With hurt feelings and unmet expectations on both sides, OP's mother sent her away with her words.

Read on to see how OP's decision to prioritize her own needs plays out.

The OP writes

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The men show up just in time to eat, then sit around drinking and watching football

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They were coming for dinner at the same time as the boys do

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"If you hate spending time with me so much then just don’t come at all.”

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The OP knows she didn’t mean it, but she's bitter about it anyway

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

Mom and I got in an argument, and out of frustration she said I shouldn’t come to Thanksgiving dinner, so I have decided that I’m not going. That might make me the a-hole because I know Mom didn’t mean it, and I know how important it is for her to have everyone together for the holiday.

And the comments from other Redditors roll in...

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They expect the OP to clean?

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OP's mom is used to everyone bending to her will

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What should work wonders is...

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The OP stood up for herself

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It's the mother dearest for me

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OP's mom made it all or nothing

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OP's mom seems to like control

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The outcome of OP's decision remains uncertain, and the future of her relationship with her mother hangs in the balance. As the days go by, OP waits to see if her mom will reach out and apologize or try to make amends.

The silence is deafening, and OP is torn between feeling guilty and feeling relieved. OP's choice to prioritize herself may lead to a more balanced connection or a wider rift, and only time will reveal the results of her actions.

Is it okay for OP to not attend Thanksgiving because of her personal needs apart from the drama with her mother? Kindly share your thoughts in the comment section.