Redditor Feels Bad For Demanding That Everyone Pays Their Share Of $1200 Dinner Bill

Navigating social norms and expectations in group settings can often be tricky, especially when it comes to splitting bills and managing shared expenses.

In this situation, one parent found themselves at odds with other parents over the growing and unspoken expectation that they would cover the costs of additional, uninvited guests at post-event dinners for their child’s sports team.

For years, the arrangement had been relatively simple and manageable. After big events, the children who competed, their coaches, and the parents would go out to celebrate at a restaurant.

When the check arrived, the parents would evenly split the bill, covering the cost of the coaches and occasionally an extra child or assistant coach. This system worked well when the group was small and everyone involved had participated in the event.

However, as time went on, the dynamics changed. More people started joining these dinners—children without parents, former coaches, assistant coaches who were not part of the day’s event, and even random adult team members.

These extra attendees, particularly the adults, expected their meals and drinks to be covered by the same group of parents. The situation reached a boiling point for OP when, at one dinner, only they and another parent showed up and had to split a $700 bill between just the two of them.

After this incident, OP decided to voice their concerns, feeling that the arrangement was no longer fair or sustainable.

They felt it was time to address the issue and ensure that everyone paid their fair share, particularly those who were not directly involved in the day’s event or who were not children being chaperoned by the group. The next large group dinner presented the perfect opportunity for OP to address the issue.

This gathering included a significant number of assistant coaches, adult team members, and children without their parents. The group also indulged in alcoholic beverages, further inflating the bill.

When the check came out to a whopping $1,200, OP suggested that the extra adults pay their share, and the remaining balance be split among the parents as usual.

Celebrating as a Team After Big Events

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Growing Number of Participants at Dinners

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Addressing the Growing Costs and Concerns

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Voicing Concerns About Unequal Bill Splitting

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The bill was paid

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OP Woke Up Feeling Crummy About The Whole Thing

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Reflecting on OP's Actions and Their Impact

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This is Being A Horrible System

u/Glittering-Oil-1465

The Bill Is Spent Between Four People

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Everyone Is Paying For Themselves

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This Tradition Is Getting Out Of Hand

u/MadTownMich

Too Big To Split Among a Small Group Of People

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In conclusion, while OP may have felt crummy about insisting on splitting the bill, their actions were justified and necessary to address an unfair and unsustainable situation.

It’s essential to find a balance between maintaining harmony in the group and ensuring that everyone contributes fairly.

By addressing the issue openly, OP took a step towards creating a more equitable arrangement for future gatherings that will benefit everyone