Redditor Shares How Fiancee Broke Their Agreement After Wanting To Celebrate Their Birthday On Thanksgiving

For individuals born on or around Thanksgiving, birthday celebrations can be overshadowed by the holiday. Some families choose to merge the celebrations, incorporating birthday traditions into the Thanksgiving meal.

Others may delay birthday festivities until the following week or a more convenient time. This can be a compromise, allowing the birthday celebrant to still feel special while avoiding conflict with the holiday.

However, it can also lead to feelings of being overlooked or underappreciated. The approach depends on the individual's preferences and the family's vibes.

Some people enjoy the unique aspect of having a birthday connected to a major holiday, while others find it stressful. In some cases, the birthday celebrant may feel like they're hijacking the holiday, while others may see it as an opportunity to make the day even more special.

OP's birthday falls on November 25, and in the past, their family would often merge the celebration with Thanksgiving. However, with a new partner, Tiffany, and her family involved, things have become more complicated.

OP and Tiffany had previously discussed and agreed upon a plan to celebrate OP's birthday, but now Tiffany's family is pushing for a traditional Thanksgiving dinner without any birthday festivities. OP feels like his special day is being overlooked, and the agreement he had reached with Tiffany seems to be broken.

OP wonders if they'll be able to find a solution that works for everyone. Read on to find out how this holiday dispute unfolded.

The OP writes...

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They agreed to spend Thanksgiving with her family

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OP's mom loved the idea

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They said Thanksgiving isn't about the OP

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They should find a way to handle this

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

My birthday is the day after thanksgiving this year but our families will be in town on thanksgiving so my fiancee and I had agreed to celebrate on Thanksgiving since last year we waited until the week following to celebrate. Might make me an AH because her family says the holiday should only be about family.

And the comments roll in...

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They should deal with it

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The traditional Thanksgiving food

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Celebrate it how you want

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The OP added this in the comments

Traditional foods we're having are: Turkey, ham (for her family), mashed potatoes, mac and cheese, rolls, spinach, deviled eggs, green bean casserole, stuffing and dressing, candied yams, pumpkin pie, pecan pie, and apple pie.What was cut out were sweet potatoes, stuffed mushroom caps, jalapeno poppers, chocolate mousse pie, and peach cobbler.

It's the OP's turn to celebrate

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There is always a gathering

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The more standard fare

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It just makes sense to celebrate

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It's not just about having a birthday party on Thanksgiving, but about feeling heard and understood. OP feels like they're being flexible and compromising, but Tiffany's family is resisting and she is even siding with them.

The compromise that was once agreed upon seems to have fallen apart, and OP is left wondering if he's doing something wrong. Will Tiffany stand by him or continue to side with her family?

The outcome of this dispute may determine the future of their relationship. Let us know your thoughts in the comments section and share as well.