Check Out The Dating Trend That Everyone Seems To Despise But Is Still A Hot Topic
"Gen Zs don't realize we already did all this stuff"
"Throning" has emerged as the newest dating fad. Have you ever heard of it?
Well, it entails establishing relationships to improve one's reputation. Status enhancement is the specific focus of such behavior, which is defined as using a partner for social approval.
Misaligned expectations can result in misunderstandings and emotional consequences, even though some people may consciously embrace these transactional interactions. The term "throning" describes the practice of essentially placing one's partner on a symbolic "throne" to showcase them to others, rather than showing concern for the partner as an individual.
Although the phrase "throning" has gained popularity on social media, particularly among Gen Zers, the behavior has been around for a long time.
According to Psychology Today, throning is said to be a form of hypergamy. This means "the practice of dating or marrying someone of higher status in an attempt to better one’s situation in some way."
While throning expressly seeks to improve one's reputation, hypergamy is driven by other motives. Bruce Y. Lee, a professor of Health Policy and Management at the City University of New York, wrote for Psychology Today, saying:
"You are dating such-and-such-muckety-muck-big-cheese-hot-tamale so that others will, in turn, assume you are a big enchilada, too. The primary purpose of being with your partner is to bathe in the spout of their clout."
The latest trend as of the moment is what is referred to as "throning"
Silvestre Leon/Pexels (Not the actual photo)The professor says that throning behavior is not just found in romantic relationships. For example, some people may associate with other popular individuals in an attempt to gain more popularity.
Even though throning is harmless, if there is a misunderstanding and the parties are aware and clear about their intentions, issues could occur.
In the realm of social interactions, understanding personal boundaries plays a significant role. A relationship expert notes that defining what one is comfortable with can prevent the pitfalls of transactional dating.
By fostering self-advocacy and assertiveness, individuals can engage in healthier relationships that prioritize mutual respect over status. Journaling about personal values and relationship goals can also serve as a useful tool to clarify one's intentions and avoid being swept into the throning trend.
The professor shared these 10 signs that show you might be in a throning relationship
cottonbro studio/Pexels (Not the actual photo)- They tell you they are throning you. Remember what Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
- They keep mentioning or asking you about your reputation because people tend to talk most about what they care about most.
- They flatter you excessively and brag about you to others. Compliments can be like sugar: sweet in reasonable quantities but overwhelming when there’s too much.
- They seem self-centered and overly concerned about their reputation. Are they all about me, me, me, or meme, meme, meme on social media?
- They are nicer to you in public than in private because they wouldn’t want others to see how they really treat you.
Throning behaviour is not limited to dating
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Understanding Transactional Relationships
Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a relationship expert, highlights that the trend of 'throning' reflects a deeper societal shift toward transactional relationships where social status takes precedence over genuine connection.
In her work, she emphasizes the importance of establishing emotionally supportive relationships that prioritize authentic connection rather than superficial gains. Solomon warns that such transactional dynamics can lead to loneliness and dissatisfaction in the long run, as individuals may struggle to find true intimacy amidst the quest for social approval.
6. They seem cold and calculating. When you are alone together, do you feel genuine warmth or a chill running down your spine?
7. They don’t seem to be interested in you as a person and don’t share much about themselves. After all, they wouldn’t want any real emotional connection to form, would they?
8. They aren’t there for you when you need them. When you are experiencing hard times, do they hardly lift a finger?
9. They seem to be very interested in the reputations of others. They may always be on the lookout for a higher rung to swing up to after you’ve served your purpose.
10. They have a history of throning. Do they go on and on about how well-known their exes were?
Mismatched expectations can lead to misunderstandings and emotional fallout
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People had a lot to say and here are some of them
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Gold Digging
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Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, a leading happiness researcher, suggests that focusing on social status can negatively impact overall well-being. Her research indicates that genuine relationships based on mutual respect and affection promote happiness, while transactional relationships often lead to feelings of emptiness.
To combat the allure of throning, she recommends cultivating self-awareness and exploring one's motivations for engaging in relationships. By identifying personal values and seeking connections that align with them, individuals can foster deeper, more fulfilling interactions.
The Gen Z
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Dating for clout
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Influencer's income
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Navigating Misaligned Expectations
Misaligned expectations in dating can lead to conflict and emotional distress. Dr. Terri Orbuch, a relationship researcher, explains that open communication is critical for preventing misunderstandings in any relationship.
She recommends setting clear intentions from the outset and regularly checking in with partners about their feelings and expectations. This practice not only enhances emotional clarity but also builds trust and intimacy, allowing both parties to navigate their relationship dynamics more effectively.
It's been done before
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Having a secret affair
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As a result, the professor advised young couples to exercise honesty, openness, and communication, saying:
"You need to look at how you can show mutual respect, how you can build trust, how you can be open about what you need, and receptive to the needs of your partner with whatever status you have designated between each other.”Drop your thoughts about this topic in the comments below and share this post as well.
Analysis & Recommendations
Ultimately, while the trend of 'throning' may capture attention, it's crucial to remember that deep, meaningful relationships are built on authenticity rather than superficial status. Research emphasizes that genuine connections foster happiness and resilience, as demonstrated by Dr. Martin Seligman's work on positive psychology.
By prioritizing emotional intelligence and communication, individuals can enhance their relational experiences and cultivate a sense of fulfillment that transcends mere social approval. Embracing these principles can lead to richer, more rewarding connections in today's complex dating landscape.
