Redditor Doesn't Know How To Tell Her BF She Wants Him To Move In, But Doesn't Want His Dog

"Pets are a lot and they take a lot of money, time, effort and sacrifice. I just don’t want to deal with it."

Damjan

• Published in Animal Stories
• March 19, 2023

Relationships can be difficult when people have different views or expectations about pets. Pets can be a significant part of a person's life, and it is important to have a mutual understanding and agreement about how they will be incorporated into the relationship.

When one partner loves pets, but the other is indifferent, or worse, allergic to them, it can create a rift in the relationship. For some, pets are like family members, and they may expect their partner to love and care for them the same way they do.

For others, pets may be seen as a burden or an inconvenience. When these different views collide, it can be challenging to find a compromise that works for both parties.

The OP is someone who loves animals but prefers them to be outside the house, similar to her father's and grandfather's views. She grew up with animals like dogs, rabbits, horses, and goats, but all of them lived outside.

She is also a clean person and does not like fur on her clothes. She has ADHD and cannot handle dogs' high energy and barking, and is allergic to cats.

The OP's boyfriend wants to move in with her, but he has a big, hyper, and loud dog that sheds a lot. The OP does not want the dog inside her house because she does not want him to ruin her stuff or disturb her peace.

She also does not want to take care of another living being, considering pets need a lot of money, time, effort, and sacrifice. Although she has not told her boyfriend about this, he knows how she feels about animals inside the house.

She does not want to ask him to get rid of the dog but would prefer it if the dog stayed with his parents. She also does not want to come across as inconsiderate towards her boyfriend's love for his dog.

OP asks:

OP is someone who loves animals but prefers them to be outside the house, similar to her father's and grandfather's views.

She grew up with animals like dogs, rabbits, horses, and goats, but all of them lived outside.

She is also a clean person and does not like fur on her clothes

The OP's boyfriend wants to move in with her, but he has a big, hyper, and loud dog that sheds a lot.

OP does not want the dog inside her house because she does not want him to ruin her stuff or disturb her peace.

She also does not want to come across as inconsiderate towards her boyfriend's love for his dog.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

OP needs to tell her BF now

OP responded:

This is something that they should have addressed a long time ago.

This Redditor agrees:

This is harsh, but true

This is a good question

OP shared an update:

She will talk with her BF

To overcome these challenges, it's essential to have open and honest communication. Both partners need to express their views and preferences regarding pets, and they need to be willing to compromise.

In some cases, it may be necessary to seek professional help to find a solution that works for both parties. This can include consulting with a veterinarian, an animal behaviorist, or a couples' therapist.

Damjan