Woman Debates Cutting Off Addict Ex From Their Baby Following Another Money Request

A 28-year-old woman got pulled into a nightmare custody fight after her ex started showing up as a “money request” guy, not a father. He kept insisting he had plenty of cash, while she was dealing with the kind of history that makes “letting him in” feel like a trap.

They have a baby together, and the ex is a former abuser who threatened his ex during court attempts, harassed her, and once chased her with a baseball bat. He admitted to overdosing on heroin on Christmas Eve, lives in a crack house, and even after getting a $24,000 settlement, chose to support another child and offered nothing to OP.

So when OP argued that cutting off access was the only way to protect their son, Reddit basically lit up.

The OP writes...

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He says he has a lot of money

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The final part

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OP’s ex didn’t just ask for money, he told people she was the one keeping him from the baby, even though he was openly using.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

Would I be the AH if I continued to keep my son from seeing his father. My mom gives me grief and says I should let him. And he tells people I keep him from him.

And the comments roll in...

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He could take the child

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Taking him to court

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A court ordered therapy

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That’s when the comments zeroed in on how he could “take the child,” after a history that includes smashing a sink, breaking a bat, and chasing OP in the doorway.

This also echoes a sister’s risky quit, while the OP criticizes the decision and sparks family heat.

Then the thread circled back to his Christmas Eve heroin overdose and the crack house lifestyle, plus the fact he got a $24,000 settlement and still showed zero support.

In the comments, the OP revealed why she hasn't taken her ex to court for child support and to fight visitation

Mostly because I’m afraid of how he could react. He threatened his ex when she took him to court and harassed her. He used to beat up his ex, he never hit me but he did chase after me with a baseball bat once. I was in the bathroom and he was in the door way. He smashed the sink and it broke the metal bat in half and then he started swinging towards me. His brother ran in and I ran out.So I figured if he was leaving me alone (which he did for most of the time) then I would be able to avoid him possibly showing up to attack me.

The comments continues...

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Bringing up the drug use

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Having no chance at custody

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OP's ex is a deadbeat

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With mom pressuring OP to “let him,” the debate turned into a blunt question of whether safety and stability can survive another round of him popping back into her life.

The OP letting her ex back into her life didn’t bring clarity—it confirmed what she already knew. He was high, openly admitted to overdosing on heroin on Christmas Eve, and said he’s still on it while living in a crack house.

He got a $24,000 settlement, chose to support another child, and offered nothing to the OP- red flags. OP's responsibility is to her child’s safety, stability, and future—and that means firm boundaries, not second chances.

And yes, the OP was declared not the AH in the story.

Now he’s wondering if he really is the father, or just the next money request.

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