Bilinguals Share Things They’ve Overheard When Foreigners Didn’t Know They Could Understand Them

People often assume that those around them speak only one language, but that is not really true. Americans are the nation that is least aware of this because most of them speak only English. However, their culture, distributed through music, movies, video games, etc., has made English a world language, which is spoken or at least understood by many.

Additionally, with the growth of internet availability and diverse content, the aspirations and opportunities to learn different languages have also increased, making it common to meet a person who speaks several languages.

Here are some of the experiences bilingual people shared on Reddit.

16. This is kind of sweet.

"Very innocent comment towards my dad, but regardless, they clearly didn’t think I could understand them.

I once overheard some middle-aged guys say that my dad looks like “the oldest kid from The Brady Bunch if he grew up” in Spanish. My dad was down the aisle getting something, and I was manning the cart while they were semi-near me. I just started laughing because my mom had a crush on Greg from The Brady Bunch as a kid, so it was perfect! Even my dad’s name is Greg!

No one was offended, but the guys did look scared for a minute."

Cultural Assumptions and Language

Language can be a powerful tool for social identity and belonging. According to research by Dr. John D. B. McWhorter, a linguist at Columbia University, assumptions about language proficiency often arise from cultural biases, particularly in monolingual societies like the U.S.

These biases can lead to misunderstandings and missed opportunities for connection. Encouraging open dialogue and cultural exchange can foster a more inclusive environment.

15. Oops.

"In high school, I spoke Spanish fairly well. It was not common for that time and for my area.

A family was buying groceries, and as I was ringing up the items, the father said, “He has not seen the stuff on the bottom; don’t get it.”

I rang up what was on the belt and sat there. After a few moments, I asked about the stuff on the bottom. They would not look at me for the next 2 minutes or so of the transaction.

Edit: I cannot spell, and I know it 😉"

14. Very rude.

I am half English and half French. When I was 19, I used to run a football class for a summer school in my hometown in England.

My dad was the modern language teacher at the private school, which led me to be pretty knowledgeable about how things worked. While walking through the street at the end of the school term, some French exchange students asked me for a cigarette. I don’t smoke, so I told them as much and carried on. I got 5 meters down the street before one said, “Eh, merci fils de pute.” This means, “Oh, thanks, son of a bitch.”

I turned back and asked them to repeat themselves. They apologized and were really surprised and extremely embarrassed.

Not nearly as shocked as when they showed up to gym class for their first summer class, and I was their teacher…

13. Bargaining.

"I took a youth group to Six Flags. We had extra tickets from a couple of no-shows, so I decided to scalp them.

A Korean family walked up, and I made my pitch. They conferred together in Korean. I’m a white guy, but I lived in rural Korea for a year and bargained with a lot of shopkeepers, so I knew their counter-offer and what they were willing to pay before they announced it in English."

12. Yes, probably a cultural thing.

"I’m from Hungary and lived in Germany for a few years as an au pair. I was honestly surprised by how many times I heard random Hungarians. They never said anything offensive or rude about others, just… swore a lot, really loudly. It always made my day when I heard a random “fucking fuck” in my native language in Aldi. I almost never swear in English (a sad lack of variety), but when my friend visited after 6 months, and I could finally talk with someone from home, I did the exact same thing! Maybe it’s a cultural thing."

11. Yes, I do know.

"A Korean family visited the university I attended. They were lost and needed help. They didn’t speak English. As I was passing them, the dad said, “He looks Korean. Let’s ask him.”

The mom and daughter said, “He’s Chinese. Let’s not ask him.”

Ten minutes later, I met up with my friend and was walking toward the dining plaza. They saw my friend and asked her, “Where is this and that?”

My friend said, “Sorry, I’m not sure,” then turned to me and asked, “Hey, do you know?”

I ended up telling them in Korean where to go and watched their shocked faces as they didn’t think I was Korean.

For information: I do kind of look Chinese. Chinese families always asked me questions at school, so I had to learn, “Sorry, I’m not Chinese. I don’t know how to speak Chinese. I am Korean,” in Mandarin."

10. Not so eager to help.

I studied ASL for many years. I had a deaf best friend and learned for him.

Downtown PDX one afternoon, while waiting for the MAX, a guy walked up and started talking in what I assumed was the most broken English I’d ever heard. After a few “I’m sorry, man, can’t help,” he signed… the sign… for “sign?” Phone goes in my pocket, water bottle set down, I’m ready to help.

Motherfucker asked me if I knew where to get heroin.

9. You did right.

"It happens to me all the time because I look Middle Eastern when I’m really Hispanic.

I was working at a coffee shop, and two Hispanic men came in talking mad shit about our food and confused about the menu. Right in front of me, the guy said, “Let’s ask this guy.” “This guy? What’s this camel gonna know about anything here?” (I guess “camel” is a slur for Middle Eastern or something?)

I responded in Spanish, and it was back-pedal o’clock."

8. Professional.

"I work in the utility industry.

I had a guy I was working with trying to get new service to his residence. During one of our meetings, he was on his cell phone when I got there. He continued talking for a few minutes, then said something along the lines of, “I’ve got to go, that stupid-ass white boy is here.” He was laughing on the phone, then looked at me.

The look on my face must have told him I understood everything he said because he became stone sober and professional."

7. So romantic.

"I’m French.

I was in NYC, on top of the Empire State Building, and a young couple was standing next to me admiring the view. The guy turned to his girlfriend and said in French, “Ahh, I need to shit so bad.”

I couldn’t help but laugh."

6. Priceless

"I am ethnically Chinese but grew up learning German.

I was in Germany for a student exchange and attended a dorm party one night. Two German guys at the party started flirting with me and openly discussed who would be able to sleep with me that night.

I played dumb and rejected both their advances. A week later, at another party, I conversed with other friends in fluent German in front of them. Their expressions were priceless."

5. With a mind like that, that is the least of her problems.

"On the tram in Munich, I heard some drunk American tourist talking about how she didn’t realize some guy had left a condom inside her for a few days.

I didn’t have the heart to tell her that like 90% of the people there could understand her."

4. Forgetful students.

"Sometimes my students forget I speak Russian and start saying things that are way inappropriate for English class.

The best was when this one boy, who always finishes his work early and fidgets around with things, was pretending to swallow a pencil. Another boy, who thinks he’s very funny, said in Russian, “I always knew you could deep-throat.”

That kid turned a beautiful color when I reminded him I could understand."

3. You got to stand up for yourself.

"I’m a white blonde female, but I grew up learning Spanish and ended up living in Chile and Mexico for a time. I am pretty fluent in Spanish. I was 18 and getting my car fixed after an accident, and I had to walk around back with one of the guys past the garage where all the mechanics were. This was in Arizona, so almost everyone working there was Mexican or Hispanic. They started saying some really rude things about me in Spanish loudly, and they were laughing. I understood them but was too embarrassed to say anything. With me being white, they probably assumed I didn’t understand them.

After my car was done, I walked back around past the guys again. This time, one of them said something along the lines of, “I want to kill her with my dick/choke her”… something like that. At that point, I decided to turn and tell him off in Spanish, saying that yes, I understood him, and I let him know how rude, offensive, and uncalled for that was. My Spanish isn’t perfect, and I probably didn’t get the exact point across that I wanted to because I was nervous and angry, but he and the coworkers clearly understood that I had heard them and knew exactly what they were saying.

On my way home, I called the car place and told the manager what happened, and he said he would handle it. I don’t know what happened after that, but I was young and shy and was proud of myself for how I handled it in the moment."

2. I don’t know either.

"I’m Polish and live in England.

I don’t know why Poles never realize that there are so many of us there that they can’t just speak about everyone in Polish because someone will understand.

It happens quite often."

1. Red lipstick is multilingual.

"I grew up in Thailand and can speak fluent Thai, but I’m mixed race, so I look pretty white. This happened when I was about 14 and wearing red lipstick for the first time.

I was coming home on the sky train. This older lady turned to her husband and basically said that foreigners always dress like sluts and that she feels sorry for my parents for raising such a degenerate. Luckily, my Thai mom called to ask which station I had gotten to, so I was just talking to her in perfect Thai. The woman’s face was priceless. I kind of wish I had some witty retort before I got off the train, but I was really shy and didn’t stand up for myself at that age."

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Understanding Bilingual Communication

Bilingual individuals often navigate complex linguistic landscapes that can influence their perceptions and interactions.

Dr. Ellen Bialystok, a cognitive neuroscientist, suggests that bilingualism enhances cognitive flexibility and may lead to heightened social awareness.

This ability to switch between languages also allows for a richer understanding of cultural nuances, which is often overlooked by monolingual speakers.

Research in sociolinguistics highlights that bilinguals may overhear conversations that provide insights into social dynamics, which can influence their relational strategies.

Engaging with multiple languages allows individuals to pick up on cultural subtleties that others might miss, enabling deeper connections with diverse groups.

This capability emphasizes the importance of cultural competence in today’s interconnected world.

Psychological Analysis

This phenomenon showcases the rich tapestry of human interaction and how language shapes our understanding of the world.

Bilingual individuals often have a unique vantage point that allows them to appreciate cultural nuances that might elude monolingual speakers.

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Analysis & Alternative Approaches

In conclusion, being bilingual offers unique advantages that extend beyond mere communication.

The cognitive and social benefits of bilingualism highlight the importance of embracing linguistic diversity as a strength.

Encouraging multilingualism can foster empathy and understanding in increasingly multicultural societies.

The Power of Language and Assumptions

Language plays a significant role in shaping our perceptions of others, often leading to assumptions based on appearance or behavior. Dr. Deborah Tannen, a linguist, emphasizes that these assumptions can create barriers to genuine understanding.

When individuals assume that others speak only one language, it highlights a broader pattern of unconscious biases that can affect interpersonal dynamics. This awareness can foster more inclusive interactions.

Research in intercultural communication suggests that individuals who are multilingual often possess heightened empathy and cognitive flexibility. A study published in the Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology indicates that bilingual individuals are more adept at understanding different perspectives.

This cognitive advantage can empower multilingual individuals to bridge gaps in communication and foster deeper connections.

Analysis & Alternative Approaches

In conclusion, understanding the complexities of language and assumptions can enhance communication and interpersonal relationships. Research indicates that developing cultural awareness can lead to more meaningful interactions and reduce biases.

Encouraging open dialogue and curiosity about others' experiences can create a more inclusive environment, ultimately enriching our collective understanding.

Social psychologists emphasize the importance of linguistic relativity, which suggests that language shapes thought and perception. This principle, highlighted by studies from the University of Chicago, indicates that bilinguals often navigate different cultural contexts with unique cognitive flexibility.

To leverage this, individuals can practice active listening and empathy, improving interpersonal relationships across language barriers. Engaging in language learning not only broadens one’s communication skills but also enhances cultural appreciation and cognitive diversity.

Understanding the dynamics of language and culture is crucial in our increasingly interconnected world. Research shows that bilingual individuals often serve as cultural bridges, facilitating understanding and reducing prejudice.

By actively promoting multilingual environments and encouraging cultural exchanges, we can enhance our collective social fabric. This approach not only enriches our personal relationships but also contributes to a more harmonious society, as noted in various psychological studies emphasizing the benefits of diversity and inclusion.