Woman And Her Boyfriend Are Condemned By Her Controlling Mom For Deciding To Sleep Together In A Hotel Room
The bed he was forced to sleep in was causing him back issues, so he had no choice but to get a room with a decent bed.
A loving and healthy relationship with parents is something that we all deserve. Sadly, the generation gap can cause a rift between a child and a parent.
Among the most common sources of familial problems is a controlling and overbearing mother. If a mom doesn't like the decisions of her son or daughter, she tends to guilt-trip, gaslight, and manipulate them.
According to a psychologist, anxiety is a typical reason behind a mother's manipulative behavior. Anxious moms are likely to think about the worst-case scenario.
In response to this anxiety and to ensure that her child is safe, her solution is to become controlling. Another reason behind such behavior is the mom's background.
If she was raised in a home that did not give her the freedom to make decisions, then she's likely to compensate by exerting control over her children. A mom who has not resolved this issue on her own will continue the power struggle for the rest of her life.
In other words, even if her children are already adults, she will continue to impose her values onto them. This is something that a Redditor and his girlfriend experienced.
The original poster shared that he was forced by his girlfriend's family to sleep in a bed that was causing him back pain. The parents of his partner are very traditional.
They wouldn't allow an unmarried couple to share a room or a bed. So now, he's wondering if he's the a**hole for booking a hotel room for himself and his girlfriend.
The thirty-something couple
VHMC_LexThe original poster has a back problem.
SourceThe traditional parents
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He had to bear with the pain the entire night
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He already mentioned the hotel room to the mother.
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Everything went south after the mother realized her daughter was also staying at the hotel.
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The issue left the mom in tears.
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What happened after they spent the night at the hotel
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True. The mom is being over the top in this situation.
eaca02124
Her daughter is already an adult who can make sound decisions. Who is she to stop her?
ReluctantVegetarian
Her response to the couple was completely unnecessary.
L3GI0N__1183
The gender gap is real.
Far_Sear_2223
They're more concerned with upholding their unreasonable beliefs than with the guy's back issue.
Far_Sear_2223
Why did she allow her daughter to cohabit with the boyfriend in the first place?
mouse_attack
The mom is just being unreasonable.
mouse_attack
That's right; his health is his priority.
probably-maybe-idk
Just wishing the best for the couple.
probably-maybe-idk, VHMC_Lex
Ultimately, everything is the couple's decision.
Catatomical
What's the point of restricting them? They allowed the daughter to cohabit with the boyfriend.
EveningJellyfish1
If only the mom had provided a decent bed, it wouldn't have been a problem for the original poster to sleep in separate rooms.
janewilson90
Hospitality? They don't have it.
dreamingzombie
Adults decide for themselves.
dreamingzombie
Sadly, it's common among conservative families.
CoffeeNotBombs
The parents are not good hosts.
loginnoregister9
"Boo f**king hoo," says the mom.
AQualityKoalaTeacher
A strategy that will never work.
madlyqueen
Very well said!
AQualityKoalaTeacher
She's shackling her daughter because she herself was once shackled. But that's not going to work this time.
Magus_Corgo
Sadly, it's still a thing.
Syric13
Poisonous purity is the right term.
FightinTXA
Another controlling mother.
Substantial-Gain-903
She'll probably be like that for the rest of her life.
whatveryso
According to experts, it's normal to feel guilty over the reaction of a controlling parent.
It's the parents who raised his girlfriend, after all. So, feeling like he's the a**hole is normal.
But in the end, adults should never give up their autonomy for the sake of a controlling parent. After all, it's his and his partner's life to live.
