Woman And Her Boyfriend Are Condemned By Her Controlling Mom For Deciding To Sleep Together In A Hotel Room
The bed he was forced to sleep in was causing him back issues, so he had no choice but to get a room with a decent bed.
A hotel room should have solved a simple problem, but for one couple, it turned into a family blowup instead. The original poster said he was already dealing with back pain, and the bed at his girlfriend's parents' home made the night even worse.
The couple's relationship is also running into her family's strict rules. Her parents do not want an unmarried couple sharing a room or a bed, so when he booked a hotel room for the two of them, the decision set off a tense reaction from her mother.
Now the girlfriend's mom is upset, the couple is caught in the middle, and the original poster is left wondering whether he crossed a line by choosing comfort over tradition. Read on.
The thirty-something couple
VHMC_LexThe original poster has a back problem.
SourceThe traditional parents
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He had to bear with the pain the entire night
He had to bear with the pain the entire night
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That's when things got awkward.
He already mentioned the hotel room to the mother.
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Everything went south after the mother realized her daughter was also staying at the hotel.
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The issue left the mom in tears.
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True. The mom is being over the top in this situation.
What happened after they spent the night at the hotel
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Her response to the couple was completely unnecessary.
True. The mom is being over the top in this situation.
eaca02124
Her daughter is already an adult who can make sound decisions. Who is she to stop her?
ReluctantVegetarian
Her response to the couple was completely unnecessary.
L3GI0N__1183
The mom is just being unreasonable.
This is similar to the OP who refused to share vacation plans with her overbearing in-laws.
The gender gap is real.
Far_Sear_2223
They're more concerned with upholding their unreasonable beliefs than with the guy's back issue.
Far_Sear_2223
Why did she allow her daughter to cohabit with the boyfriend in the first place?
mouse_attack
The mom is just being unreasonable.
mouse_attack
That's right; his health is his priority.
probably-maybe-idk
Just wishing the best for the couple.
probably-maybe-idk, VHMC_Lex
Ultimately, everything is the couple's decision.
Catatomical
What's the point of restricting them? They allowed the daughter to cohabit with the boyfriend.
EveningJellyfish1
If only the mom had provided a decent bed, it wouldn't have been a problem for the original poster to sleep in separate rooms.
janewilson90
Hospitality? They don't have it.
dreamingzombie
Adults decide for themselves.
dreamingzombie
Sadly, it's common among conservative families.
CoffeeNotBombs
The parents are not good hosts.
loginnoregister9
"Boo f**king hoo," says the mom.
AQualityKoalaTeacher
A strategy that will never work.
madlyqueen
Very well said!
AQualityKoalaTeacher
She's shackling her daughter because she herself was once shackled. But that's not going to work this time.
Magus_Corgo
It's the parents who raised his girlfriend, after all. So, feeling like he's the a**hole is normal.
But in the end, adults should never give up their autonomy for the sake of a controlling parent. After all, it's his and his partner's life to live.
For more boundary drama, read how the OP handled parents who overstayed after financial struggles.
