Young Woman Refuses To Pay Rent To BF's Roommate Because She Stays There "Only" 5 Days A Week

A 28-year-old woman refused to pay rent to her boyfriend’s roommate, even though she’s living in the apartment five days a week. And the reason she gave was petty, specific, and somehow still got her into the middle of a full-blown roommate conflict.

Her boyfriend pays half the rent, but she wouldn’t chip in, because the roommate was basically expecting her to comply. The situation gets extra tense because she and her boyfriend avoid the kitchen when the roommate is home, even though she has dishes and groceries there, and her boyfriend only cooks when the roommate isn’t around.

Now the question is whether she’s really just “visiting,” or if she’s turning a shared space into an unpaid routine, and everyone’s starting to notice.

The OP kicks off her story

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The OP actively avoids the kitchen

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The OP is not willing to pay

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OP says she only stays “5 days a week,” but she also admits she and her boyfriend dodge the kitchen like the roommate is a walking red flag.

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Ignoring issues can lead to resentment and conflict over time.

The OP does not think that it is fair

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

Refusing to pay my boyfriends roommate rent 2. Because he’s expecting me to comply

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

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Seems the OP is always there

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While her boyfriend tries to cook earlier in the day, OP keeps her groceries and dishes in the kitchen and still refuses to contribute anything toward rent.

This document can serve as a reference point in case disputes arise. Regular check-ins can further enhance this atmosphere, ensuring everyone's concerns are addressed promptly.

It’s also similar to the stay-at-home mom whose husband took control of her inheritance and handed her just $1,000.

It's time to get their own place

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What the OP can do

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The roommate’s expectation that she pays rent collides head-on with OP’s belief that it’s “not fair,” especially since her boyfriend already covers half.

OP reveals how she actively avoids the kitchen area even though she has dishes and groceries there

My boyfriend will cook only when the roommate isn’t there (around lunchtime during the day) so sometimes I’ll bring over stuff for him to cook with. My bf has his own shelf in the fridge. We avoid the kitchen area when the roommate is home.Outside of me, my boyfriend used to cook dinner while they were on the couch watching a movie or something. I think he made a comment and that’s why my boyfriend tries to keep the kitchen accessible for him// cooks earlier in the day. I’m not completely sure.

And the comments continue...

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Moving in together

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The OP has two options to choose from

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This Redditor is laying it all out

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By the time the comments start pointing out that OP seems to be there constantly, the whole thing stops looking like a casual arrangement and starts looking like a deal that benefits only one person.

A financial planner might suggest that roommates who spend more time in the apartment should contribute more towards expenses. This approach promotes fairness and accountability, as each individual's usage is taken into consideration.

When implementing this strategy, open dialogues about preferences and feelings are essential. This transparency can alleviate feelings of resentment and ensure that everyone feels their contributions are valued and respected.

OP's boyfriend pays half the rent, and OP doesn't spend her entire days at her boyfriend's place. The request from OP's boyfriend's roommate might be based on 'if my girlfriend can split rent with me, why can't you, since you already spend a significant amount of time here.'

OP's hesitation is understandable, but is this justifiable enough not to comply with the request? Well, it was declared that OP's story doesn't have enough information.

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This scenario underscores the intricate dynamics that often characterize shared living situations.

Establishing expectations around financial contributions is crucial in any shared living situation.

Nobody wants to be the roommate who pays for the house while everyone else calls it “only visiting.”

That “only five days a week” rent feud is wild, but wait until you see how siblings fought over inheritance shares. the man who adjusted his inheritance share for inflation while siblings bought houses.