Conservative Parents Threaten to Disown Their Gay Son Unless He Reconciles With His Sister, Whom He Bullied Relentlessly Growing Up

"I hate my brother," a Redditor says, not bothering to mask her feelings for her estranged sibling. She explained that while growing up, he was their parents' golden child, and OP (original poster) was an "oops child."

She wasn't planned since her parents never wanted a baby girl, plus OP was a fussy baby while her brother was well-behaved. OP's fussiness annoyed her mother, and her brother hated her, too.

He made up lies about her, and their parents ate it up. If he stole something, he blamed her, and they believed it, no questions asked.

He also ruined many of her relationships while growing up and even turned her friends against her for no apparent reason. OP received a scholarship for college and moved out of their parents' house immediately.

The golden child stayed in their home state and rented a house near their parents' place, which was, of course, paid for by them. They stopped talking to OP the moment she moved out and never helped her financially.

OP's life is flourishing with no help from her estranged family; she is married, has a child, and has another one on the way. When she got married, she invited her family, but they didn't show up.

OP now lives in another state with her own little family, and her husband's family has treated her well. Here's the start of her brother's problem.

Their parents are very conservative: male head of the household and traditional values. When their golden child came out as gay, everyone was shocked.

Their parents demand "blood descendants" to carry on the family name. Adopting or surrogacy is not an option, and they only accept "proper" marriage.

OP's estranged brother called her, explaining his tough situation. Their parents will disown him unless he fixes his relationship with OP.

OP's brother is terrified because their parents are still supporting him financially, and they want him to get in contact with OP so they can control her and her children. They are forcing him to do this because they think he is to blame for their distant relationship with OP.

OP says that's not the case, and while her brother was a factor in the frayed relationship, she blames their parents. He even visited OP in person and tried to salvage what was left of their fraternal bond.

He was crying and basically excused his bullying as a result of the stress of being closeted. OP snapped and told him that her family is dead to her and that she didn't care about him.

OP's brother says that OP is petty for ruining his life over some childhood slights. He also accused OP of homophobia for not relenting to his badgering.

OP is not backing down and refuses to contact her parents so they can have blood-related grandchildren since their favorite son "failed" them. She also learned that their parents want her unborn baby to have their family surname.

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Is OP an a**hole and a homophobe for not going along with her bully gay brother's demands? Read the full story below:

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"My parents always took his side."

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"That's helping me a lot."

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"Proper Marriage."

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"My family is dead to me."

jdjcjcinsbxjic

A queer person told OP that she was in no way homophobic in this scenario.

spicytofuside

They also advised OP to stay far away from her toxic family.

spicytofuside

You cannot hide behind homophobia when someone refuses to excuse your sh*t behavior.

emp9th

Sounds like a grown man throwing a tantrum because he can't get what he wants.

PandasNPenguins

Let's subject your kids to our parents' conservative traditions so I can keep mooching off them!

Sarrex

This is what he was actually asking from OP.

yet_another_sock

He only talked to OP because he needed something from her.

yet_another_sock

Let them clean up their own mess; OP need not be a part of it.

Zagriel55

Clickbaity title aside, OP is not forcing her parents to disown her gay brother. That was an ultimatum they gave without her help.

Crackles247

They really don't want a relationship with OP; they only want a hand in raising her kids and therefore need to tolerate OP to gain access to them.

Simplyaperson4321

Consider the timing; he had so many years to talk to OP but only reached out now because his money is on the line.

Just_the_doctor1988

We can acknowledge that the brother probably had a difficult time growing up in that house, but his circumstances do not excuse his behavior towards his little sister.

Ayle87

There is literally no upside in this for OP, and the cost is too damn high — allowing her horrible parents near her children.

Neshgaddal

Correct, OP's brother could have genuinely used this issue as a way to make a connection with his sister, but he managed to mess it up.

biglaskosky

They haven't done anything for OP ever since her childhood to warrant any favor from her.

nd313

Like what the other Redditors said, when you really think about it, OP doesn't factor into this problem at all. She is only being dragged into it because their bad parents made her a condition for her brother's inheritance.

I swear to all the gods that some of these stories are so horrible they have to be made up. Unfortunately, they are real, and we can only wish a good life for OP and her little family.