Redditor Gifted A Book About Cheating To His Mom And Her Husband On Their Anniversary

Parents deserve to be happy, but it isn’t always that easy. They are constantly tied to the consequences of their decisions, which can affect their children.

This is why many parents do what they believe is best for their kids, even if it’s not truly what they want. However, some parents pursue their own happiness without considering how it will change their family’s lives.

One of the biggest decisions they face is whether to consider divorce. Divorce is already messy enough, but it becomes even more complicated when a couple has children.

There are custody arrangements and numerous small details involving schedules. If the divorce goes through, there is a chance that the children will meet future step-parents or siblings.

Not everyone finds comfort in that possibility. Take this Redditor who posted on the subreddit r/AITAH about his relationship with his mom and her new family.

OP described how his mom’s new family came about, but his dislike for them—especially the husband—is very clear. He took the initiative to reduce the number of times he had to see her in order to avoid seeing them as well.

One time, OP didn’t have a choice but to stay with his mom, and as much as she tried to get closer to him, he still didn’t respond positively to her affections. On top of that, since his mom wouldn’t acknowledge his dislike for her family, he bought her a gift that he hoped would convey his message.

Here is OP's question for the Redditors

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OP started with his views on his mom and her new family. He also stated how they didn’t see each other often due to that reason.

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In a complicated circumstance, OP’s mom jumped at the opportunity to have him stay at her place for the time being.

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He tried to keep himself busy and avoid seeing the family as much as possible.

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One time, his mom tried reaching out to him, but his grudge was still strong. OP had an idea about how to express his feelings toward his mom regarding the situation and planned to execute it on her and her new husband’s anniversary.

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OP finally gave the present to them, and his mom immediately understood what the story was about and felt hurt.

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She then kept her distance from OP. When she left, the new husband was rude to OP, and although he felt bad for making his mom cry, he still questioned whether he was the a**hole.

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Here is more information regarding OP's story

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There's also a revelation about his dad

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There's more to explain why OP dislikes his mom's new family

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The majority believe that OP wasn't the a**hole and that the book was actually a clever gift.

Dszquphsbnt

OP's mom might have already felt guilty before he even gave her the gift.

rachelvvvv

People have shared sayings that resonate with the mom being affected.

Lord_Kano

There are a couple of international sayings similar to the idiom 'if the shoe fits.'

Jadeitea

She could have approached it differently so that both were prioritized.

nutmegisme

An eloquent way to express the things you couldn't say.

nutmegisme

The mom might have taken OP's gift the wrong way.

sleepy-popcorn

And apparently, no one is communicating properly either.

koalapsychologist

The mother somehow could figure out the meaning of the book but isn't aware of how affected OP would be by celebrating their anniversary.

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A Redditor shared some insight, along with their own story.

HappyLucyD

There will always be consequences when you choose to separate and make decisions for your kids.

HappyLucyD

She must have thought that if she pushed her choice long enough onto OP, he would just accept it and be happy for her.

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sssuuuzzz

OP didn't have time yet to heal from the abandonment.

avamarie

It's not as easy as just forgiving and forgetting.

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What OP did might be considered petty, but it was his way of relaying his innermost thoughts. The mom kept pushing aside the fact that there were consequences to her actions, and OP seeing her new family is just a reminder of that.

Do you think OP was wrong for giving the book to his mom and her new husband on their anniversary? Let us know in the comments what you think was the right thing to do.