Redditor Gifted A Book About Cheating To His Mom And Her Husband On Their Anniversary

One Redditor turned a family anniversary into a very pointed message, and his mom understood the meaning right away.

He says his relationship with his mother changed after she built a new life with her husband, and he has gone out of his way to avoid them whenever possible. When he was stuck staying with her, the tension only got worse, especially because he never warmed up to her new family. So when her anniversary came around, he chose a gift that said exactly what he felt without spelling it out.

Now the whole situation has turned into a question of whether he crossed the line, or just finally said what he had been holding in. Read on.

Here is OP's question for the Redditors

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OP started with his views on his mom and her new family. He also stated how they didn’t see each other often due to that reason.

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That distance did not happen by accident.

In a complicated circumstance, OP’s mom jumped at the opportunity to have him stay at her place for the time being.

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He tried to keep himself busy and avoid seeing the family as much as possible.

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Then came the anniversary gift.

One time, his mom tried reaching out to him, but his grudge was still strong. OP had an idea about how to express his feelings toward his mom regarding the situation and planned to execute it on her and her new husband’s anniversary.

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OP finally gave the present to them, and his mom immediately understood what the story was about and felt hurt.

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She then kept her distance from OP. When she left, the new husband was rude to OP, and although he felt bad for making his mom cry, he still questioned whether he was the a**hole.

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Here is more background on why the resentment runs so deep.

Here is more information regarding OP's story

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There's also a revelation about his dad

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There's more to explain why OP dislikes his mom's new family

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Most Redditors thought the gift was harsh, but understandable.

This gets messy like the OP who excluded their in-laws from an anniversary to avoid drama.

The majority believe that OP wasn't the a**hole and that the book was actually a clever gift.

Dszquphsbnt

OP's mom might have already felt guilty before he even gave her the gift.

rachelvvvv

People have shared sayings that resonate with the mom being affected.

Lord_Kano

There are a couple of international sayings similar to the idiom 'if the shoe fits.'

Jadeitea

She could have approached it differently so that both were prioritized.

nutmegisme

An eloquent way to express the things you couldn't say.

nutmegisme

The mom might have taken OP's gift the wrong way.

sleepy-popcorn

And apparently, no one is communicating properly either.

koalapsychologist

One commenter tied the whole thing back to the fallout from the separation.

The mother somehow could figure out the meaning of the book but isn't aware of how affected OP would be by celebrating their anniversary.

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A Redditor shared some insight, along with their own story.

HappyLucyD

There will always be consequences when you choose to separate and make decisions for your kids.

HappyLucyD

She must have thought that if she pushed her choice long enough onto OP, he would just accept it and be happy for her.

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OP didn't have time yet to heal from the abandonment.

avamarie

It's not as easy as just forgiving and forgetting.

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What OP did might be considered petty, but it was his way of relaying his innermost thoughts. The mom kept pushing aside the fact that there were consequences to her actions, and OP seeing her new family is just a reminder of that.

Do you think OP was wrong for giving the book to his mom and her new husband on their anniversary? Let us know in the comments what you think was the right thing to do.

The family dinner did not end well.

After skipping your parents’ anniversary, you will want to see why one OP’s family feud made them refuse the party.