Childfree Woman Challenges People's Motivations For Parenting
"I answered the comment using my own experiences and feelings."
Dominique Baker, a popular fashion and beauty influencer who has decided not to have children, gained significant attention online after responding to a mean comment in a viral post. It is highly unlikely that anyone on the planet would choose to have children solely for the purpose of having someone to care for them in their later years.
However, this line of logic is used by some critics in an attempt to shame women who decide not to have children. Canadian fashion and beauty influencer Dominique Baker addressed this in a TikTok video, which quickly gained popularity with 1.8 million views and 369k likes.
Dominique discussed how often she receives negative comments about her childfree lifestyle and expressed her viewpoint on why some people tend to be so hostile toward those who do not have children. Dominique noted that the idea of 'starting a family' is "pretty deeply rooted in our society."
However, it could be clearer what it would take for people to be more considerate of childfree women.
"For starters, just being open and non-judgmental would be great. Also, taking the time to speak to a childfree person and consider their reasons would make such a difference. Most people who are 'pro-natalist' feel that childfree individuals are selfish."
Read on to see the video and what internet users had to say about it. Don't forget to leave your opinion in the comments!
Dominique Baker, a popular fashion and beauty influencer who has decided not to have children, gained significant attention online after responding to a mean comment in a viral post.
Dominique BakerShe elucidated why the comment against those who have chosen not to have children was completely illogical.
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And she says:
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On the other hand:
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What is the real reason?
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People judge without knowing the situation
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Can we all be a bit more sensitive?
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She has a message:
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Dominique says: “I get these comments almost daily across my platforms. The best approach for dealing with these types of comments is to not engage at all. That particular comment was one I would constantly receive, so I thought it was time to stand up for myself and other childfree people and address it.”“I answered it using my own experiences and feelings. It’s a really hurtful assumption, and I was tired of being asked that.”
Watch the video here:
And here are the comments:
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Some people are in for a dose of reality
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These comments make sense:
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Dominique added: “For a long time, I was pretty bewildered by the hostility! I think it may be a combination of ‘childfree women bucking the rules’ and this false sense of a woman’s duty to procreate and continue a lineage.” She explained how these individuals tend to think.“Our society expects women to get married early, immediately have children, and primarily tend to their families' needs. I also think that some people may question their own decision to start a family. They may feel resentful of that decision when they realize that they had to make a lot of personal and financial sacrifices to do so… and then see a childfree person being okay with not making those sorts of sacrifices. This could make a resentful parent jealous and angry.”
One mom here:
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It is a projection
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What's really the problem?
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Childfree people appreciate the safe space
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She watched her mom struggle
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Some people are extremely judgmental of childfree women
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