Dad Is Accused Of Playing Favorites After He Paid For His Older Son's Wedding But Not For His Younger Son

Weddings are such monumental events that it's really important to ensure that the day is perfect, and it's incredibly beautiful to see someone dear to you finally tying the knot with their significant other. Many people have contrasting views on how weddings should work, but at the end of the day, what's important is that the couple who got married is perfectly happy that they have tied the knot.

However, it's an unspoken rule that one must be of mature age to get married, and society is always intent on advising young people to invest in their education and careers first. It has always been expected that young adults should spend their early 20s or the years after they graduate on carefree adventures and focus on their careers to ensure that their lives are stable once they reach middle age.

This expectation is, of course, never really harmful, because it does make a difference when you learn to enjoy life before getting married. It's commonly believed that marrying young will make the couple prone to a relationship filled with obstacles and challenges that they may have a hard time facing because they are still young.

However, there are people who disagree and believe that age has nothing to do with the future of one's marriage. But whether or not a couple decides to wed at an early age, it's always ideal to seek your parents' help or heed their warnings before it's too late...

There's never an easy way out of conflicts, and family problems will always be inevitable. But it's also important for you to stand up for the things you want or don't want to do.

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A dad posted his story on Reddit, sharing that he refused to fund his younger son's wedding because he wasn't in favor of it. He was then accused of playing favorites when he paid for his older son's wedding.

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He reasoned that his younger son was just too young to be married at that time, and he had only been with his partner for a year.

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His son didn't have enough money, but after a year, they welcomed their first child. A second one came soon after.

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However, they decided to put their second child up for adoption because they couldn't afford to raise two kids. The dad decided to adopt the second child, named Jade, instead.

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They moved out, and the older brother came with them. They had little to no contact with their younger son for years.

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It was Carl, the older brother, who was hands-on with raising Jade as she grew up.

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Carl recently got engaged to a woman named Maya, with whom he has been for five years. The dad seemed to be fond of Maya.

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They returned to the same city as Jacob when Jade was finally ready to meet them.

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As a way to thank Carl and Maya, OP offered to pay for their wedding expenses.

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But when Jacob found out about this, he got mad and accused the dad of showing favoritism.

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OP included a little disclaimer after the post:

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He also highlighted the reason why he didn't mention his first grandson.

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The post gathered a lot of mixed reactions—some telling him he's at fault, and some siding with him. Take a look at some of the best responses below.

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This one concludes that everyone just sucks in this situation.

Some other important info regarding Jacob and Jade's relationship:

Some people were a little skeptical about their relationship before everything went down the drain.

A user here sides with OP and says that Jacob and his wife are the ones at fault.

The same goes for this one here.

Many people sided with OP due to the fact that he offered to raise Jade instead.

They also agree that his sentiments as a parent regarding Jacob's early marriage were valid.

But some pointed out that he was technically not the only one being victimized here.

It's definitely well within Jacob's responsibility to make wise decisions, but it is concerning that he got married at 18.

Some users blatantly say that he's the TA, and they have laid out their reasons why.

Here's a lengthy response from someone who said everyone just sucks here:

...And another one that says OP is at fault for being smug about the whole situation.

The situation is definitely a lot more complicated than it sounds, and everyone's kind of torn about where to side.

Something to ponder:

Yep, it did seem like he was just praising Carl in his post.

Here's another lengthy response worthy of your read:

Some users agree that OP should have taught Jacob better in the first place.

They didn't like the way he talked down to Jacob.

But some people stand by their reasoning that Jacob may have been young to get married back then, but he was old enough to make his own decisions.

Family, marriage, and relationships can definitely get messy when everything and everyone gets riled up, especially when certain conflicts arise and hurtful words have already been exchanged. At the end of the day, though, family is family—but it's definitely ideal to make appropriate decisions regarding your relationships with them, especially when they are already becoming toxic to you and your peace of mind.

What do you think—who do you believe is at fault here? Comment with your thoughts, or share this article with all your family and friends to see!