Entitled Single Mom Expects Her Date To Pay For Her Babysitter, Gets Angry When He Refuses
"I don’t understand why anyone would think that I would pay for a babysitter"
A 28-year-old man got hit with the kind of “I can’t believe you won’t do this” demand that makes you instantly question the date, the logic, and the vibe. In this Reddit post, OP says his date expected him to pay for her babysitter before she would be willing to move forward. Things got tense fast, because she also told him she needed to dismiss the babysitter before they could pay, and OP refused to be the one covering it.
Now OP is stuck wondering if he was the asshole, while the comment section is basically screaming the same thing: the babysitter shouldn’t be his bill.
The OP writes
Reddit/IAmDinosaurROWRShe wants to make sure she pays the sitter now, and then she can tip her later
Reddit/IAmDinosaurROWRShe said she had to go and dismiss the babysitter before she had to pay
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She wanted the sitter paid first, then the tip “later,” and OP’s refusal turned a casual dinner plan into a full-on money fight.
Research shows that traditional views may pressure individuals into roles that don't align with their values, leading to conflict.
In this instance, the single mother feels entitled to compensation for her babysitter, which may stem from societal beliefs about financial responsibility in relationships.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:
As is clearly evident in my post, I might be the asshole because I refused to pay for a babysitter. N certainly thinks I am the a-hole because she won’t talk to me since I wouldn’t pay for the sitter. I feel like I could be the a-hole because she thinks I am, so I’m doubting whether I was in the right and maybe should have just gone and gotten cash for the sitter.
We've gathered a bunch of the topmost comments from other redditors for you to read through below
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She would have mentioned it to the OP if it was an issue
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Taking care of everything for dinner
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The moment she said she had to dismiss the babysitter before paying, OP realized she was treating his wallet like part of her childcare setup.
When one partner assumes the other will cover certain costs, it can create feelings of resentment and entitlement.
Understanding and discussing these expectations openly is crucial for building a healthy relationship foundation.
What exactly is the OP's date looking for?
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The responsibility of the kids stays with the parents
Reddit/IAmDinosaurROWR
It's not the OP's responsibility to pay for the babysitter
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When OP tried to understand why he was wrong for not paying for the babysitter, the single mom reportedly went silent and refused to talk.
By laying out what each person is comfortable with, partners can minimize potential conflicts down the line.
This single mom says that that kind of thought has never crossed her mind
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She should have asked the OP ahead of time
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It's just like saying the OP should pay her for the date
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By the time the thread reminded everyone that the responsibility of the kids stays with the parents, OP’s “maybe I should’ve gotten cash” question didn’t sound so convincing anymore.
Utilizing budgeting tools can also help couples manage expectations and responsibilities regarding finances.
So many redditors agreed that a prospective partner should not be responsible for your child, particularly financially. Again, there is no obligation to accept a man's invitation to go out, so decline if you don't believe it will be worth the trouble of finding a babysitter.
The OP was declared not the AH, and you can share your own thoughts about this story in the comments section below.
The single mom's anticipation that her date would cover the cost of her babysitter reflects a broader issue in modern dating dynamics, where assumptions about financial responsibilities can lead to misunderstandings. Open discussions about these expectations can pave the way for healthier interactions. Addressing these topics upfront not only promotes fairness but also establishes a foundation of mutual respect, essential for developing any relationship.
Nobody wants to pay for someone else’s babysitter, not even if it comes with a “tip later” promise.
Want more drama about money expectations? Read why this AITA spat blew up after refusing to split an expensive restaurant bill.
