Husband Got Mad At Wife For Not Waking Up And Reheating His Food In The Microwave

There’s this big assumption that stay-at-home moms don’t do as much as those who go to work. That balance between taking care of kids and managing the house is always present in their daily lives.

But moms work tirelessly to get through the routine of their kids and are often left with no time for themselves. Their only breaks might be when they sleep or go to the bathroom, which they sometimes have to rush as well.

Then they have to prepare things for their spouses who work to make home life easier for them. That dedication is sometimes overlooked, especially by their partners, who expect it rather than appreciate it.

There are partners who think they are entitled to be served with whatever they need by their stay-at-home spouses. They often get mad when they are essentially told to grow up and do things like adults would. 

Take this Redditor’s husband, for example. OP shared a bit about her being a stay-at-home mom taking care of two kids.

She also takes care of her husband, who works odd hours as an ambulance driver and wants his meals ready whenever he comes home. OP then found a way to prep meals so he would just have to heat them instead of waking her up every time, and he still couldn’t do that.

This is how OP’s argument with her husband went

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The context shows the way OP handled her role as a stay-at-home mom and a dutiful wife to her husband, even though it could be tiring

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When OP’s mom suggested prepping meals to lessen OP’s exhaustion, she immediately jumped at the opportunity to start. Her husband didn’t voice any concerns.

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Then, late at night, when OP was sleeping, he started yelling for her. When he found out that he had to reheat his own food, he laughed mockingly, which angered OP.

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OP’s husband found it ridiculous that he was expected to do anything for himself after working and even told OP she wasn’t doing enough. OP left him to go back to their room.

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Her husband continued to sulk and blame OP for his hunger, even after being told how unreasonable he was being.

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A Redditor expressed their thoughts point by point in a comment

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They suggested that OP should seek professional help for an outside perspective.

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There are a lot of important questions that need answers.

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Hopefully, this Redditor's advice would save OP from a boatload of pain.

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Here are more compassionate words for OP.

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Although OP might not see how bad the situation is now, it's enough to trigger trauma in people who have experienced it.

Ok-Title-2511

OP's husband refusing to heat up the food by himself feels like an excuse for him to blame his hunger on OP.

Happy-Investment

This OP straight up told her ex-fiancé what she thinks of his attitude; his retaliation backfired.

owlsandmoths

It was great that someone made her see the light.

owlsandmoths

She was smart to get out of the situation before it got worse.

Sleeplesshelley

People sometimes underestimate what moms go through when they take care of their babies.

Ok-Top-6572

OP can choose different options on how to approach the situation, depending on how their relationship works.

Ok-Top-6572

OP's husband is stepping all over her, and she shouldn't let him.

oldcreaker

If she wanted to be more petty, there are plenty of ways to put that into action.

throwawaySarah7

A lot of Redditors advised OP to leave her husband, but if it's too hard to think about that alone, OP can ask for help from her mom.

Desperate-Ad-3147

There are some who recognize the signs of an abusive partner.

Khalimeowy

If he reacts this way to a minor inconvenience, OP should assess the situation and act fast before it escalates.

Samael13

If OP reflects on the numerous feedback from these people, it might help her see her worth.

SnapesGrayUnderpants inimitableheart

It might be hard for OP to answer all of the questions she has about her future with her husband, but it's important that she starts by seeking help. It might make communication easier for both OP and her husband.

There is hope that things will work out for the better, but many Redditors are pointing out the brewing problems in the situation. If OP makes the right decision, she won't have to wake up to someone yelling for her to heat up their dinner.