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Lady Backs Out Of Double Date Before It Even Starts As One Party Decided To Be Extremely Late, Wonders If She's Missing Out

"They want me to apologize, but I steadfastly refused."

Lady Backs Out Of Double Date Before It Even Starts As One Party Decided To Be Extremely Late, Wonders If She's Missing Out

A 28-year-old woman backed out of a double date before it even started, and the reason is petty enough to be legendary. OP says the plan was simple: he and his buddy would pick up his girlfriend and her cousin, then head out together like normal adults with reservations.

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But the other party decided to be extremely late, so late that the reservation got missed. OP left, not to be dramatic, but because an hour late is apparently where “oops” turns into “you ruined the plan.” Now he is getting texts and calls calling him a jerk for leaving, even though he had been waiting while they were nowhere to be found.

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And the wild part, she is still acting like OP is the one who should have stayed.

The OP writes

The OP writesReddit/EntertainmentFew2766
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The plan was that OP and his buddy were going to pick up his girlfriend and her cousin

The plan was that OP and his buddy were going to pick up his girlfriend and her cousinReddit/EntertainmentFew2766
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The recent double date debacle highlights the crucial role that punctuality plays in social interactions.

OP's buddy and his girlfriend texted and called to tell him what a jerk he was for leaving their planned double date

OP's buddy and his girlfriend texted and called to tell him what a jerk he was for leaving their planned double dateReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through belowReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

While OP and his buddy were waiting to pick up the girlfriend and cousin, the texts started rolling in, calling him a jerk for leaving the double date that already got wrecked by lateness.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

  1. I left a double date before it started because they were taking so long, and we missed our reservation. 2. I could have waited, and we could have gone somewhere else.

Does the OP understand why she's still available after all this time?

Does the OP understand why she's still available after all this time?Reddit/EntertainmentFew2766

This Redditor writes what the OP should counter with

This Redditor writes what the OP should counter withReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

After the reservation was missed, OP’s options were basically “wait longer” or “go somewhere else,” and the late group chose neither, then blamed him anyway.

It also reminds me of the Reddit debate where someone “should have collaborated” for personal gain, and their colleague paid the price.

Engaging in open discussions about expectations can help clarify misunderstandings and promote healthier interactions.

An hour late is totally unacceptable in pretty much any situation

An hour late is totally unacceptable in pretty much any situationReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

They could have gone somewhere else because they were still free to do so

They could have gone somewhere else because they were still free to do soReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

The comments are not buying the “you could have waited” argument, especially when the girlfriend and cousin were the ones who turned punctuality into a suggestion.

Practicing assertiveness can enhance relationships by fostering respect and understanding among individuals.

This Redditor won't be friends with such people

This Redditor won't be friends with such peopleReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

Telling the friends that they were lucky he waited so long

Telling the friends that they were lucky he waited so longReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

Now OP is stuck wondering if he is actually the problem, or if the real issue is that the people who were late never respected anyone’s time, including his.</p>

Encouraging a mindset of adaptability can enhance social interactions and promote healthier relationships.

According to this Redditor, she doesn't respect you if she doesn't respect your time

According to this Redditor, she doesn't respect you if she doesn't respect your timeReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

From a Redditor who is bad at timekeeping

From a Redditor who is bad at timekeepingReddit/EntertainmentFew2766

Being on time is essentially the essence of being courteous, and that's why it's so crucial to arrive on time. Being punctual matters a lot since it reveals to others your perception of both yourself and them.

Even though it might not seem like much, being late can eventually negatively impact your job or, in this case, your date. Redditors understood why the OP took that action, and he was declared not the AH.

In the context of the double date that never quite got off the ground, the importance of punctuality cannot be overstated. The decision of one party to arrive significantly late not only disrupted plans but also triggered a reflection on social dynamics. When someone fails to show up on time, it sends a message that can undermine trust and reliability. The lady's choice to back out before the date even began underscores how delays can lead to missed opportunities and feelings of exclusion. Ultimately, fostering a culture of punctuality and consideration can significantly enhance the quality of interpersonal interactions.

He might be happier skipping double dates with people who treat reservations like optional decorations.

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