MIL Upset Because Heavily Pregnant Daughter-In-Law Requested Privacy During Birth
"You wouldn’t even have a baby right now without MY SON!"
Some family members hear the word privacy and take it as a personal insult. That is exactly what happened when one heavily pregnant daughter-in-law asked for space during labor and delivery, only to get a furious reaction from her mother-in-law.
Redditor Sfc_3236 and her partner wanted to keep the birth of their baby calm and private, but MIL had other ideas. Instead of respecting their wishes, she pushed back hard and made the situation even more tense.
Her reaction turned a simple boundary into a full-blown family clash, and it only got messier from there. Read on.
This is what the couple initially had in mind...
Reddit / Sfc_3236After deciding what they wanted to do, they had a chat with MIL.
Reddit / Sfc_3236That conversation did not go the way they hoped.
But MIL had other plans. OP decided to take matters seriously.
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OP tried very hard to control her anger. But MIL wasn't done.
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And then MIL really started pushing back.
MIL went ballistic, ignoring OP's request for privacy.
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She wouldn't take NO for an answer.
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The world responded...
A majority of people agreed that MIL had to respect OP's wishes for privacy. It's unfair to barge into someone's home, especially after they've welcomed their baby.
They have their hands full, so expecting them to host a guest at that time is simply ruthless. From how OP explained the situation, MIL wouldn't take NO for an answer, and that's unfair.
While it's true that grandparents love their grandkids, there are certain boundaries one must never cross to keep relationships sweet. Well, here are 20 of the best comments that make much more sense than OP's MIL.
This person thinks MIL crossed a line.
Thank goodness OP's SO has her back.
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Others agree MIL's stepping boundaries.
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Be polite, but be firm.
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More commenters kept it blunt.
MIL isn't Rumpelstiltskin.
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Call the cops.
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Go MIA and let nurses know too.
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Let her dig her grave. smh.
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OP should note this down.
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OP should do everything she can to preserve her sanity.
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Keep MIL away.
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Best MIL meets baby when he's 18.
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Remind her she's not welcome.
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This comment is spot on, but made me chuckle.
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Be firm and stand your ground, OP.
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Change the locks! True though.
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Oh, then she'd be seeing the baby when he's getting married.
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Yep, good idea.
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A word of caution.
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ROFL.
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Stay firm and enforce your boundaries, OP.
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In Summary...
In the end, I support OP, and I think MIL really needs to respect boundaries and wishes. It's great that she's excited about welcoming her grandchild, but there's a time and method for everything.
To assume that new parents will fail is wrong. Clearly, OP wants to experience and cherish all the moments with her SO, and she has the right to decide whom she'd like to include.
It's impolite to stomp on other people's boundaries, even if they're family. What do you think?
The comment box is all yours.
Some boundaries are not up for debate.
Before you let MIL “help” again, read why one mom refused the baby shower offer and got pushback.
