Husband Refused To Take Children To His Ex-Wife's House On Christmas
The ex-husband didn't want to miss Christmas Day with his children because it was previously arranged as his holiday to spend with the kids.
Christmas plans can get messy fast when a divorce is already in motion. In this case, one father thought the holiday schedule was settled, until his soon-to-be ex-wife changed her mind at the last minute and asked for the children back.
The couple had already agreed to split time with their four kids, with Christmas Day spent at his home and the next day at hers. But when the morning arrived, emotions ran high, and a simple co-parenting arrangement turned into a family standoff.
Now he is left wondering whether holding firm was fair, or whether he should have given in for the holiday.
The OP posted:
RedditDivorce is ongoing, but they have already agreed to spend time with their four children separately.
RedditThe agreement was made a month ago.
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That agreement did not last long once Christmas morning arrived.
But when Christmas morning arrived, the ex-wife changed her opinion.
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The OP wanted to compromise, but that wasn't enough for her.
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The children stayed with the OP as originally planned, but the ex-wife took the opportunity to blame him for her being upset.
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She was sure that she was not welcome in his parents' house, so she couldn't go there to see the children.
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That left him stuck between the original plan and her last-minute change of heart.
So, the OP wanted to know if he had the right to stay with the children instead of bringing them back to their mother.
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NTA; the agreement was made beforehand.
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This commenter says the deal should have stood.
This also echoes the in-law vacation fight, where splitting extravagant costs turned into a family dilemma.
The OP offered her a fair compromise, and she should have accepted it.
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She has the right to feel sad but must respect the agreement.
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She is not being fair to the OP.
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She's being manipulative.
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Co-parenting means compromising with each other.
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Everyone's feelings matter, not just hers.
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She will miss her children every time they are not around, but she has to get used to it.
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She is the selfish one here.
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The OP couldn't be kinder.
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"If you give her an inch, she's going to take a mile."
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Her demands were rather unreasonable.
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She should be thinking of the kids and their happiness.
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He deserves to spend time with the children too.
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It's most difficult for the children.
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He is trying his best.
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This tricky AITA situation ended up with the OP being avidly backed by his fellow Redditors. They strongly agreed that he is not an asshole and encouraged him to always fight for himself and his children.
What is your opinion? Did he do the right thing, or maybe not?
Before you judge, see how he found his wife’s secret savings and divorced her, leaving the kids calling him heartless: secret savings divorce, kids calling him heartless.
