Husband Refused To Take Children To His Ex-Wife's House On Christmas
The ex-husband didn't want to miss Christmas Day with his children because it was previously arranged as his holiday to spend with the kids.
Family is the most valuable thing in the world; family gives us purpose and teaches us important lessons. However, partners sometimes don't get along with each other, and naturally, they decide to get divorced.
Although divorce sounds pretty scary, it is better for partners to live separately than to have constant fights and endless arguments. Even though this path can be painful at times, it is better that way.
Throughout the separation process, the crucial matters for both sides refer to their kids. Spouses should discuss details of their children's lives, such as with whom they will stay and which holidays they will spend with each parent, etc.
One Reddit user has found himself in this kind of situation. He is about to get a divorce and already lives separately from his soon-to-be ex-wife, but problems are just beginning.
They had already agreed on all the details about the children, and everything seemed to be set. The holiday time was evenly divided between them; they made a deal so that neither side would feel excluded, and both could enjoy the holiday time with their children equally.
But no matter how hard parents try to honor the agreement, it's just in their nature to want their kids close on every holiday and special occasion. This particular issue may complicate matters between the ex-partners.
The OP (original poster) had an arrangement with his soon-to-be ex-wife to have the children on Christmas Day. They would spend the day with him and his parents and have a sleepover at their house, and the next day they would be with his soon-to-be ex-wife and her parents. However, the mother couldn't bear it and changed her mind on Christmas morning, demanding to take the kids for Christmas Day.
The OP was not happy with that, so he decided to tell her no. This is just the beginning of a complicated family story; take a look at the following photos to get the whole picture and judge for yourself whether he did the right thing or not.
The OP posted:
RedditDivorce is ongoing, but they have already agreed to spend time with their four children separately.
RedditThe agreement was made a month ago.
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But when Christmas morning arrived, the ex-wife changed her opinion.
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The OP wanted to compromise, but that wasn't enough for her.
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The children stayed with the OP as originally planned, but the ex-wife took the opportunity to blame him for her being upset.
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She was sure that she was not welcome in his parents' house, so she couldn't go there to see the children.
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So, the OP wanted to know if he had the right to stay with the children instead of bringing them back to their mother.
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NTA; the agreement was made beforehand.
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The OP offered her a fair compromise, and she should have accepted it.
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She has the right to feel sad but must respect the agreement.
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She is not being fair to the OP.
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She's being manipulative.
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Co-parenting means compromising with each other.
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Everyone's feelings matter, not just hers.
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She will miss her children every time they are not around, but she has to get used to it.
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She is the selfish one here.
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The OP couldn't be kinder.
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"If you give her an inch, she's going to take a mile."
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Her demands were rather unreasonable.
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She should be thinking of the kids and their happiness.
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He deserves to spend time with the children too.
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It's most difficult for the children.
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He is trying his best.
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This tricky AITA situation ended up with the OP being avidly backed by his fellow Redditors. They strongly agreed that he is not an asshole and encouraged him to always fight for himself and his children.
What is your opinion? Did he do the right thing, or maybe not?
