Feeling Left Out: AITA for Being Upset About Family Night Out Without Me?
AITAH for feeling left out when my family went out without inviting me, even though they were just in my neighborhood?
Some families keep score in silence, and this one might just be doing it with dinner plans. OP’s mom flew in for a two-week visit, and while the trip had its share of awkward moments, it was the “who got invited” part that really lit the fuse.
Here’s the setup: OP, her brother, and her SIL were overseas working, and the hotel for their last-minute trip was paid for by a friend, not exactly a casual expense. Then an emergency forced them to cut the trip short and head back. Mom is now staying with the brother and SIL, close to OP’s area, and OP found out they went out with mom last night, right near where she lives, and nobody told her.
To make it worse, when OP asked SIL why she wasn’t invited, SIL flipped it back on her, calling OP the problem for “making it about her.”
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Context: me, my brother and SIL are working overseas. My elderly mom came for visit from home country for 2 weeks.
We traveled last weekend and hotel was fully paid by my friend. Mind you it wasn’t cheap, it was a last minute booking, it was around $2000.
We cut our trip short because some emergency happened (not concerning the family) but somehow it forced us to go back home. We don’t live together of course.
And mom is staying at brothers and SIL during her vacation. There were arguments during that trip, but nothing major.
At least for me I thought they were normal minor arguments. Today I found out they went out last night with mom and they went to somewhere close to where I live.
It was just at my area. And they didn’t invite me at all.
I only found out because mom mentioned it. When I asked SIL why they didn’t invite me and told her that I got upset, she scolded me and told me not to make it about me.
That they were doing it for mom. Somehow she turned the tables and made it my fault that I’m acting like the main character.
So now my question is.. AITAH for getting upset?!
Because somehow she made me feel that I was the AH because I got upset.
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OP thought the earlier arguments were just minor, until mom casually mentioned the outing near OP’s place and the invite was missing.
The overseas work situation and the surprise hotel booking paid by OP’s friend made it feel like the family should’ve been operating as a unit, not splitting plans.
When OP confronted SIL about not being invited to the night out with mom, SIL didn’t address the invite, she accused OP of acting like the main character.
Now OP is stuck wondering if she’s the AH for being upset that her mom and brother’s household went out without her right after the trip got cut short.
We're curious to hear your perspective. Share your thoughts in the comments.
If everyone was “doing it for mom,” OP still deserved to know, not be blamed for feeling left out.
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