Man Doubts His Decision to Abruptly Bail After Being Pressured to Babysit His Nephews and Seeks Advice Online

Boundaries are extremely important for a family, but that doesn't mean your family won't cross them. At some point, we have to say "no" and realize that we need to do things for ourselves, not for everyone else all the time.

What would you do if one of your family members said they were on their way to your home to drop off their kids after you had already told them no? It's a fine line with family, and they always expect you to be there for them, but what about yourself?

I don't think many of us would compromise important plans, especially after he had already said no. Reading the title, you might think that this man is in the wrong, but ultimately, those aren't his kids, and he has no responsibility for them.

Don't be afraid to say "no" and stick to your guns because if you have other plans or simply don't want to do something, then don't do it. Sometimes it's hard being family because you think you're supposed to say yes to everything, but that isn't the case.

This story has a lot to it, so let's just dive right in and see what exactly happened.

Here's the start of the story, which gives you a bit of a preface about the family and why the sister-in-law may have needed him to watch the kids.

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He goes on to discuss the "agreement" that they have.

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His brother flew out of town, and the day after, he received a call asking if he could watch the kids.

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He mentioned that she just texted him afterward, saying that she was on her way to bring the kids so he could watch them.

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His neighbor even saw his sister-in-law looking in his windows and knocking on his door to see if he was there.

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His brother was, of course, on his wife's side, and they continued to call him unreliable and irresponsible.

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This has clearly caused many problems within the family now.

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What do you think he should have done?

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Then the comments started rolling in.

stardust591

He said no, and that should have been the end of it.

audreyclare

Exactly; she can hire a sitter, and the kids aren't your responsibility.

ChampagneTastes281

People definitely think that the original poster is in the right and that his sister-in-law is being unreasonable.

Turbulent_Message637

This is the one. Definitely.

ironicmirror

He's not the asshole, and the sister-in-law should have planned better.

Myobright2344

This is not okay under any circumstances because no means no, and those aren't his kids.

MischievousBish

They need to respect him because he doesn't owe them free babysitting.

MontanaRogues

People are really wild.

sordonez96

It's definitely not okay for her to try to force him to watch the kids.

crazymamallama

Those aren't his kids, so they aren't his responsibility. Simple as that.

ChallengeAfraid2319

This story was a little bit crazy. How do some people think it's okay to just show up and expect someone to watch their kids?

People on Reddit seem to agree that he is not the asshole and that the sister-in-law is a bit out of line for bringing the children over unannounced after he said no. No means no.