Redditors Reveal The Moment They Realize They Were Being Excluded By Their Friend Group
“I've never had that kind of friend group that actually cared about me, so I never had an 'oh s**t' moment.”
Friend groups can look solid from the outside, until one person starts noticing they are always the last to know, the last to be invited, or the one everyone forgets to include.
That is the situation behind this Reddit thread, where people shared the exact moment they realized their supposed friends were leaving them out on purpose. The stories range from high school awkwardness to adult friendships that quietly turned one-sided.
Some of the answers are messy, some are heartbreaking, and a few are painfully familiar. Here is how Redditors knew the group was never really a group at all.
Get ready for some pain with the answers to this question
noweverythingisairThis was definitely a shock to OP after spending that amount of time with them
ElPolloDiablo07Some friends only like you when it benefits them and don’t even bother to hide it
Giddyup_88
It turned out to be very one-sided
spitfyrr
And OP wasted years
spitfyrr
OP might have appreciated a conversation with them before she left the...
IcedMercury
friend group instead of being excluded even after quietly leaving
IcedMercury
That kind of silence says a lot.
Their exclusion of OP is a blessing in disguise so she wouldn’t be mixed with friends who lie
flyingblindOR
Like a fart, she left
Maldarona
Kids can say the most wholesome things one second and become the meanest the next
buttwiped
Exchange the presents for money that you could spend on yourself
ShiftingStar
An unexpected confession turned out to be a hurtful realization
enderillion
Having your birthday turn into a sad memory is one of the worst, especially knowing they ditched you on purpose
atdvial
That birthday story stings more than most.
They might feel like they can bring you back in again after making you feel excluded
dck1w1
It’s like asking for labor and then running out when payment is due
aft-backwards
Not even an invite to give OP a chance to decline
amithrownawayforgood
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amithrownawayforgood
Sometimes it just hits you when people you consider friends are like regular strangers passing by
SkyBlueHyacinth
Introverts tend to have a harder time making friends or letting people in
sarasa3
The audacity of this 'friend group'
FluidBox5
Once the pattern shows up, it is hard to unsee.
This hits like the AITA where a friend ignored a birthday invite, and the birthday planner cut them out.
It might hurt when the pieces start to fall into place, but...
jkim3190
you might cross paths with friends who will be with you in the future
jkim3190
Sometimes it’s better to make friends outside of...
AlanS181824
work to avoid mixing two environments
AlanS181824
It’s a poor excuse not to include OP in the group
Ihlita
There seems to be a lack of honesty in this situation, which makes it awkward only for the one excluded
Pantrajouer
Your plan, their execution
Queasy_Chef
It’s hard at first, but if OP found happiness and ditched the backstabbing group, then it’s the best revenge
megafireguy6
This situation is tougher because of the relationships involved, and it would remind OP every time there’s a gathering
TinyTinasRabidOtter
A list of what to look out for to know that you’re being excluded. Hopefully, OP finds a good friend group
bbandi7
Some people only realize it after the damage is already done.
When you catch up a little too late.
rberg89
It was a jerk move to even discuss it in front of OP with no intention...
kermi42
of letting him know how he was completely excluded
kermi42
That friendship boat has sunk
Brucesaidit
It’s like a remake of Mean Girls or something
sweeneexoxo_
One-sided friendships tend to keep you in a loop for a while when you have no one else to turn to
Leafybonzai
Time to get new friends
SkeletorJellytor
It might take a while before you find the people who would love you and vice versa, but when you do, it will be worth it. Best friends are like families you can choose.
They will understand you better, and it won’t feel like things are one-sided. Friendship isn’t supposed to feel like something you keep working on without feeling loved.
Some groups just stop being worth the effort.
Before you ditch the group, read how one person weighed skipping a dinner party with an ex-friend.
