Parents Asked 18yo Kid To Move Out And Then Asked Him To Come Back But The Reason Was Not Love
What do you do if your parents expect you to leave the house when you're 18, and once you do, they want you to move back in? And then you find out that they're just saving face.
Different cultures view "moving out" differently. While in several cultures it is more of an accepted norm, in others it may even be considered a matter of insult.
It is deep-rooted in the way they are brought up and the kind of life they lived. Some parents are cool with their kids moving out, while others do not approve of it.
Moving out is considered a sign of adulthood, and there are other reasons such as studying or a job. However, there are some unique situations that go against the tide and arise for the wrong reasons.
Parents love their kids no matter what, right? Unfortunately, that's not the case for everyone.
Some parents care more about their reputation in society. The following post includes a story from the AITA thread on Reddit that discusses one such unfortunate kid.
It's quite disappointing what this kid's parents did to him. They asked him to move out as soon as he turned 18, which was fine since he was already planning to move out.
He moved out, but his parents had a change of heart and wanted him to come back. The reason was both perplexing and upsetting.
The Reddit users gave their verdict in favor of the kid. Read the story and see whether you think what the kid did was right or not.
The 18-year-old was kicked out of the house by his parents
When the OP left the house, his parents wanted him to return and became upset when he didn't want to come back. It's pretty disheartening what this kid had to go through as the story unfolds.
So the story goes like...
This unwanted child lived with his family only to be asked to leave the house upon reaching 18 years of age. His parents wanted to be a child-free couple.
Independent-Boot-789Aware of his situation, he expected that it was coming
The kid was aware of his situation as an unwanted child. He always knew the day he'd be asked to leave was approaching quickly.
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He was preparing for it
He had been working from an early age to save a sum of money, essentially getting ready for what awaited him.
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He lived an unloving, distant life
The parents looked after the kid financially and did not mistreat him. They were never abusive but were emotionally distant.
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The day of "the talk" arrived
What he expected happened before his 18th birthday when his parents asked him whether he had found a place to move out. He was prepared for it and said that he had made some arrangements.
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The kid was planning to share an apartment
He planned to share an apartment with his friends but received a better offer. His friend's family, who knew about his situation, offered him affordable accommodation.
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The Indian descent family came to save the day
He found the offer affordable and suitable since the family was of Indian descent. Therefore, he planned to move out soon.
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The kid shifted to another place
He moved out after his birthday and was not in touch with his family. Neither of them tried to contact each other.
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A sudden turn of events
Suddenly, his parents contacted him and asked him to move back. Enjoying his new lifestyle, he didn't want to return.
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The parents got upset when he declined
Knowing the history and awkwardness that came with it, he politely refused the offer. The parents became so upset that his mother started to cry, and his father scolded him.
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The parents were upset because of the rumors
Apparently, the rumors suggested that another Indian family had to take him in because his parents had thrown him out. He realized it was not his responsibility to save them from the consequences, but his extended family was cornering him.
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He also addressed the question fellow desi Redditors were asking
He reflected on the situation, noting that his parents were more upset about him moving in with another desi family. They asserted that they supported him moving out but not the consequences that followed.
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He took the story to Reddit
The OP concluded the story by discussing the family he is currently living with. They were nice to him and disapproved of what his parents did.
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The Reddit community shared their thoughts
People showered the OP with support and ruled that he wasn't wrong in this situation. The following are comments left by people who shared their experiences and opinions on the matter.
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Yes, he didn't deserve to go through all this. His parents only cared about their reputation, not their child.
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Your happiness > society
They are ashamed of how society reacted, not because they were worried about the kid, which was bound to happen. The grown-ups didn't act like grown-ups.
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You don't need them, and they were never actually there
What they did shows where their priorities lay. The kid is better off without them.
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It's for them to deal with it
They didn't bother to ask how he was doing when he moved out and only contacted him when the rumors unfolded. It doesn't sound like they cared.
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What goes around comes around
He did what they wanted him to do and still faced their upset reactions. He had already endured enough and deserved a better life.
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Something out of the ordinary
His parents cared more about their reputation than about him. They just wanted to minimize the damage and not repent for what they did.
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An act to save face
All they did was try to save their reputation. He is not responsible for the consequences, and he needs to focus on his own life.
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Let them handle their hopeless image
He would be forced to live with them just for their selfish pride, as if his early life wasn't unfair already.
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The Reddit community wholeheartedly supported the OP and pointed out that the parents were only concerned about their image. He had already lived an unhappy life, and when he got the chance to walk out of it, he did so for the better.
It's sad to see kids suffering due to parents who don't seem to care. Share this post with your friends and family to remind them to be kind to their kids.
