How to Deal with Family Criticism for Burping
AITA for burping at home due to lactose intolerance? Dad thinks it's gross and constantly yells at me, making me feel uncomfortable in my own space.
Some families are loud, some are picky, and then there’s OP’s dad, who treats a casual bodily function like a personal insult. This story is one of those awkward, stomach-level conflicts that should never turn into a daily shouting match, but somehow it does.
OP, a 20f who is lactose intolerant, keeps things contained by avoiding dairy outside the house and rarely burps in front of anyone. Still, she burps between 3 to 7 times a day depending on food and soda, and her dad reacts like it’s a crime scene. Even when she’s in her bedroom or work room with the door closed, he yells, lectures her about how “grown men” burp less, and insists something must be wrong with her.
Here’s where it goes from “I can’t help it” to “I can’t breathe in my own home.”
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I (20f) am lactose intolerant. I don't burp outside my home or eat dairy outside my house for that matter since I know I'll be gasy.
I will maybe burp between 3-7 times a day based on what I've eaten and if I've had soda that day(I don't have it everyday). My dad is absolutely disgusted by this and isn't shy about his opinion.
He's constantly yelling at me when I burp, lecturing me on how gross it is and how he doesn't even hear grown men burp as much as me and that something must be wrong with me. I don't even burp around him as I know how he feels.
I'm usually in my bedroom or work room with the door closed but even then he still yells at me that it's gross. It's really gotten to me lately that I can't even be comfortable in my own house let alone own space without being yelled at at how gross I am.
I've told him my point of view and how I can't just not burp but he still says that it's disgusting. tldr-I burp a lot at home and my father thinks it's gross
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OP tries to keep her burps private, but her dad still tracks her down and starts yelling the moment it happens.
The worst part is he keeps turning it into a whole lecture, comparing her to “grown men” like that makes it less gross.
Even with her explaining she can’t just stop burping, he refuses to drop it, so her room door becomes the only shield she has.
By the time she’s stuck living in fear of the next burp, the family home stops feeling like home and starts feeling like a courtroom.
How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.
The burping isn’t the problem anymore, it’s that her dad made it impossible for her to feel comfortable anywhere in her own house.
For another family morals clash, see the OP debating whether to donate their heirloom vintage watch.
