Woman Gets Abused By Her Husband For Buying Him Sneakers With His Money, Gets Furious When She Returns It
There’s a thrill that comes with opening presents, but this one received a bad response.
A simple sneaker purchase turned into a full-blown marriage fight for one Redditor, and the part that stings most is that she used his own money to buy them.
The 29-year-old OP says her 36-year-old husband handles the bills, while she does the grocery shopping and has to stick to a list unless she is paying another way. So when she picked up a low-priced pair of sneakers for him, she thought she was being thoughtful, not starting a conflict.
Instead, the gift set off a messy reaction, and the next day only made things worse. Read on.
And here's the headline...
u/Campfire_byLake77My husband is the breadwinner
u/Campfire_byLake77I'm not allowed to get something that's not on the list
u/Campfire_byLake77
Gift-giving can be sweet, until the person on the receiving end decides to make it a problem.
I decided to grab a pair
u/Campfire_byLake77
In my defense...
u/Campfire_byLake77
He called what I did stealing
u/Campfire_byLake77
That reaction took the whole situation in a pretty ugly direction.
I returned the sneakers the next day
u/Campfire_byLake77
He yelled that I used his money
u/Campfire_byLake77
Did I mess up?
u/Campfire_byLake77
The post got a lot of attention, pulling in 24K upvotes and close to 4K comments. Here are some of the most upvoted comments by Redditors.
1. So many red flags in this short story
Tical79
2. You should stop buying him Christmas and birthday presents
ShallWeStartThen
3. He's controlling and you need an exit plan
MotherOfCrotchFruit
One commenter says the husband's reaction says a lot.
4. There's no winning with this type of person
lilymoscovitz
5. What you're doing is valuable as well
BeJane759
6. A Redditor is seriously concerned
BuskaNFafner
Another commenter points out how bad this looks from the outside.
This echoes the daughter who refused family expenses until her parents proved their finances.
7. Someone shares her brief relatable story
Preference-Prudent
8. Financial and emotional abuse are still abuse
BlueLavender0104
9. Your husband's behavior is out of control
murphy2345678
More readers kept piling on with the same basic message.
10. Because he earns doesn't mean the money is his
YouareMrRobot
11. Hope you and your kids are okay?
Open_Injury_1801
12. He sounds like a horrible, tedious little man
teapleasebitch
The comments only got harsher from there.
13. There are many jobs you can do while at home
WarLazy7979
14. Someone really thinks the OP needs help
TieVisual1805
15. Please consider your alternatives
fairymascot
At this point, the thread had clearly turned into a pile-on.
16. He is using coercive control over you
Zieglest
17. Damned if you do, damned if you don't situation
toofat2serve
18. Provide yourself with your own allowance
joe6744
19. Look at your relationship from an outside point of view
ags1977
20. Put an end to this
saurellia
21. He wants you to be financially dependent on him
QueenSSica
The final stretch of comments did not soften the mood at all.
22. You are so not in the wrong here
KccOStL33
23. He's abusing and gaslighting you
OatmealCookieGirl
It feels awful to get treated like that after trying to do something nice, and even the fix ended up becoming another fight.
Now she is left wondering what she is supposed to do next. What is your take on the OP's story?
Drop your opinions in the comments below.
The whole thing shows how fast a small gift can turn into a much bigger argument when money and control are already in the mix.
What should have been a simple gesture ended up exposing a lot more than a pair of sneakers.
For a trip-fueled blowup over an expensive gift, see why this friend wanted to sell your gift and still demanded reimbursement.
