How One Redditor’s Plans To Split Her Weekend Graduation Celebrations Sparked A Family Feud

A Redditor sparked a lively debate after revealing she was caught between two graduations — her own and her boyfriend’s — and one very unhappy dad. The OP explained that her entire family, including a grandmother she rarely sees, was traveling in for her big day.

But the twist? Her boyfriend was graduating the very next morning, and she planned to support him just as he planned to support her.

According to the OP, she and her boyfriend have been together for over six years, and the relationship is serious. Unfortunately, her dad isn’t exactly the president of the boyfriend’s fan club — in fact, he outright hates him.

The real showdown began when the Redditor mentioned she’d be attending a late-night dinner with her boyfriend and his family on one of the evenings her own family was in town. Her dad immediately declared her “rude” and insisted she was prioritizing her boyfriend over blood.

The OP pushed back, saying she had already promised to spend the entire afternoon that day with her family. Not only that, but she planned to spend two and a half full days with them overall, making time for lunches, celebrations, and plenty of togetherness.

To her, this wasn’t a case of choosing sides — it was simply balancing two milestone events with two important families. But her dad acted like the dinner was an unforgivable insult, ignoring the rest of the time she had committed to being present.

The Redditor wondered if she was being unreasonable or if her dad was blowing things completely out of proportion. Many readers chimed in to say it sounded like a perfectly normal compromise for a couple navigating adult responsibilities.

The OP’s entire family, including a grandmother she rarely sees, was traveling in for her big day.

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Here’s the original post by Reddit user ‘thebassproshop’.

My family, including my grandma who I don’t get to see often, is coming for my (23f) graduation. However my bf (23m) is graduating a day after me so I will be attending his graduation in the morning. My dad (66M) says I am the asshole for planning on going to dinner with bf and his whole family one of the nights my family is in town. The dinner is late at night so I promised I would eat lunch and spend the whole afternoon with family. I will also be spending the rest of my family’s time in my city with them too. Am I being unreasonable? I have been with my bf for over 6 years (dad hates him though) and we have a serious relationship. I will see family for two and a half full days at least but my dad says I am being rude.

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted.

EwwDavvidd

“You’ll never make him happy, so why bother?”

Low-Television-7508

“Your plans are reasonable.”

RaisintoBe

“Don’t allow him that power.”

nemc222

“Case closed.”

Smitts69

NTA.

julesk

“Seems like a reasonable plan.”

HeadCrone

Your dad is unpleasant.

myboytys

“You’re the levelheaded one.”

LoosePhilosopher1107

“You’re supporting your BF.”

RuthBourbon

Give the rest of the family a heads up.

Duckeee47

Dad is being petty.

Hope_Wally

“Good luck!”

Wonderful_Minute31

In the end, the OP just wanted to celebrate both graduations without causing unnecessary drama. And honestly, isn’t that what milestone weekends are supposed to be about?