Redditor Called Cruel For Telling Her 16-Y.O Friend That She Is Not Financially Stable And Shouldn't Have A Baby

"Anyone can have kids but in this time and society if u want to raise a child with proper care the parents needs to have money."

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Published in Interesting
May 21, 2023

Redditor Called Cruel For Telling Her 16-Y.O Friend That She Is Not Financially Stable And Shouldn't Have A Baby

Taking care of a baby these days is getting more and more expensive. The rising costs make many reconsider starting a family until they are more financially stable.

It's cruel to bring a child into the world and not have the means to take care of it properly. Besides the financial aspect, parents must be mature enough to raise and care for a baby properly.

Lately, many young parents have been making TikTok videos about their lives and glamourizing having a baby as a teenager. Many crucial aspects are not included in the video, and that makes teenagers think it's an easy job that anyone can do.

A Redditor who goes by the username u/No-Atmosphere8804 made a post on the r/AmItheButtface subReddit where she explained how she told her friend she should not have a baby since neither she nor her boyfriend is financially stable. The friend called the user cruel for saying that, which made her doubt her actions.

Op decided to consult with the Reddit community and get different perspectives after her friend's opposing reaction to what she had to say. The Reddit community had a lot of different responses to the user's post; scroll down to check out the full Reddit post and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post.

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Here's the original post by Reddit user u/No-Atmosphere8804:

The friend's boyfriend also doesn't come from a wealthy family and has 12 siblings.

OP fears her friend might impose more responsibility and financial burden on her single mother.

OP was called cruel for her stand, which made her doubt the way she handled things, and decided to consult with the Reddit community.

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to u/No-Atmosphere8804's post:

Raising kids without a decent income will only cause suffering.

The friend's mother will have a lot on her plate.

TikTok is not an accurate portrayal of society.

OP only tried to warn her friend about the responsibilities that come with having a baby.

"She is entirely unprepared for the reality of being a parent."

OP did the right thing by calling her friend out.

Pp's friend is completely clueless and should not ruin her life.

Anything baby-related costs a lot of money.

Medical care should be free for everyone, especially child birth.

A life-saving ambulance shouldn't bankrupt a person.

OP's friend needs to think realistically and realize the mistake she's about to make.

OP is only trying to help her friend and prevent her from ruining her life.

"Just try to get her to sit down and have a talk about the importance of contraceptives and family planning."

The friend's mother needs to learn about this.

Baby fever is not a good enough reason to have a baby, especially if you're broke.

"The best contraceptive I knew as a teenager was actually dealing with children."

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