Redditor Lashes Out At Their Uncle After Coming Out As Transgender For The First Time During A Family Gathering

"I know I was a bit harsh but, it wasn’t the right place or time to reveal that."

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Published in Interesting
May 15, 2023

Redditor Lashes Out At Their Uncle After Coming Out As Transgender For The First Time During A Family Gathering

Coming out for the first time is a scary and emotional process many struggle with. Disclosing one's gender identity and sexual orientation to the people in one's life usually has social and personal consequences.

That makes choosing the right place and time to come out extremely crucial. The environment you choose to reveal your identity in is supposed to be supportive and safe to ensure positive outcomes.

Unsupportive environments can lead to rejection, discrimination, or even violence. There's always a right place and right time to come out.

A Redditor who later deleted their account made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where they explained how their uncle decided to come out as transgender for the first time during a family gathering. The uncle's wife and youngest son's reactions pushed Op to lash out at their uncle.

After OP's mom made OP aware of their uncle's state after what they said to her, they decided to consult with the Reddit community and get different perspectives on the matter. The Reddit community had a lot of different reactions to the user's post; scroll down to check out the full Reddit post and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post.

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Here's the original post by a Reddit user who later deleted their account:

OP's uncle and aunt arrived separately this year due to their separation.

OP's uncle has been expressing not feeling like a man for a while.

OP lashed out at their uncle, which made her leave immediately.

OP's uncle refused to respond to anyone's calls after that day.

OP feared they might have taken it too far, which pushed them to consult with the Reddit community.

OP's post eventually got deleted from the platform for the initial confusing phrasing.

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the user's post:

"The uncle was not only disrespectful but also selfish."

OP's approach was wrong.

No one gets to dictate when you are supposed to come out.

The immediate family doesn't necessarily have to be supportive.

"There are times and places that aren't acceptable for coming out for the first time..."

That should have been a private conversation between them.

"It’s bordering on crazy to expect uncles wife and kids to just roll with this in a family dinner with no advanced knowledge."

OP should try to be there for their uncle and cousins.

OP could have handled the situation much more gracefully.

Sometimes you have to be direct and explicit.

OP's uncle could have chosen a better time to come out.

Trans or not, some people are simply terrible human beings.

OP's reaction had nothing to do with their uncle coming out as trans.

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