Is It Wrong to Not Allow Kids at My Wedding? AITA for Telling My Friend I Don’t Want Her Toddler There?

AITA for telling my friend I don’t want her to bring her toddler to my wedding? The tension builds as I stick to my no-kids policy amidst her disappointment.

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Is It Wrong to Not Allow Kids at My Wedding? AITA for Telling My Friend I Don’t Want Her Toddler There?

Weddings are often regarded as one of the most significant milestones in a person's life, and naturally, couples want to curate a day that reflects their vision and values. For one soon-to-be bride, this has led to a difficult situation with a close friend.

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The original poster (24F) has planned her wedding for some time and has decided on a no-kids policy to maintain the intimate atmosphere she envisions. However, when her friend (26F) expressed a desire to bring her 3-year-old son, tensions began to rise.

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The bride's choice stems from the venue's strict no-kids rule, but her friend feels hurt and believes the decision shows a lack of consideration for her family. This situation raises several important questions about boundaries, expectations, and friendships.

Should the bride prioritize her wedding vision over her friend's feelings? Is it fair for parents to expect exceptions to be made for their children at adult-centric events?

As the community weighs in, it will be interesting to see how differing perspectives on child-free events and friendship dynamics unfold. Join the discussion and share your thoughts on whether the bride's decision is justified or if her friend has a point worth considering.

Original Post

I (24F) am getting married soon and I’ve been planning every detail of the day for a long time. I’ve always imagined it as a special, intimate event and after months of planning, I decided to have a no-kids policy for the wedding.

One of my closest friends (26F) has a 3-year-old son and recently she asked if she could bring him. I didn’t want to hurt her feelings but I told her I couldn’t make an exception, especially since the venue has a strict no-kids rule.

It was hard for me to say it but I thought it was important to stick to my decision. She was really upset and now she’s saying I’m being unreasonable and that I don’t care about her or her son.

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I understand she wants to share the day with him but I just want the day to go the way I’ve dreamed of for years.I’m starting to feel really guilty and I hate that this is causing tension. AITA for not allowing her to bring her son?