Is It Wrong to Travel with My Ex While Dating Someone Else?

AITA for considering a solo trip with my ex while dating someone else? Opinions are divided on whether this is a breach of trust or a harmless adventure.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
29 Dec 2025

Is It Wrong to Travel with My Ex While Dating Someone Else?

A 27-year-old woman is getting dragged in her relationship over a trip that sounds like it should be harmless, and it is, until it becomes a whole moral debate. She and her ex, who she’s been friends with since they broke up over a move for work, planned a week in China before her current girlfriend came into the picture.

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Now the ex wants to do Mongolia next, with horse riding, a national park, and staying in a Mongolian yurt. She’s excited because it’s basically a once-in-a-lifetime itinerary, but her girlfriend Abby is not just uncomfortable, she’s upset that she even considered it. Abby’s argument is messy too: she thinks solo travel with someone of the gender she’s attracted to is not acceptable, and she’ll only be okay if the trip is with a married man, even though nothing romantic happened on the China trip.

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So the real question becomes whether this friendship is actually a betrayal, or if Abby is drawing lines that do not match the facts.

Original Post

Hi,

I (27F) have been dating a girl, Abby (27F) for 6 months. I am Bi but fully committed to my relationship with Abby.

Before this, I dated my ex (28M) for 3 years. We broke up amicably when he moved to another country for work and we've remained good friends since.

We still maintain contact but the feelings aren't there anymore. I went to China with my ex for a week.

We climbed the Great Wall and explored Beijing. We had a great time, and nothing happened between us.

Abby was unhappy about this trip but we had planned it before I met her. The issue now is that my ex has suggested another trip to Mongolia for horse riding, visiting a national park, and staying in a Mongolian yurt.

I told him I would think about it but Abby is upset that I even considered going. I am excited about the Mongolia trip because it seems like a once in a lifetime opportunity.

Abby said most people wouldn't be comfortable with their partner going on a solo trip with someone of the gender they're attracted to. In my case, everyone since I am Bi.

She also mentioned that the only way she'd be okay with me going on a solo trip is if it were with a married man. I explained that nothing happened during my China trip, and he didn't make any advances.