Man Wonders If He's Wrong For Calling His Fiancée Lazy For Wanting To Become "Stay-At-Home Wife"

People work for many reasons; some enjoy their professions and take pride in what they do, while others work simply because they lack other options and need to support themselves financially, which is completely understandable. According to James Clear, author and productivity expert, "When a second option presents itself, working becomes a mere choice that can be replaced with alternative activities." Most people can't afford to stop working since they are the primary source of income in their households. However, some couples agree that one partner should stop working to focus on other duties at home, and with another source of income, the family manages to keep everything afloat. The most common examples are stay-at-home parents; many couples decide that one partner should stop working and concentrate entirely on raising their child and managing the household. Stay-at-home wives (without children) are less common these days, but they still exist nonetheless. In discussing the dynamics of such arrangements, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a relationship expert, notes, "It's essential for couples to communicate openly about their roles and expectations to ensure mutual understanding and respect."

Here's the original Reddit post by Reddit user u/lazy-fiancee:

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The fiancée thinks working 9-5 just isn't for her.

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People have some strange dreams.

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Being the sole breadwinner is not something OP is comfortable with.

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Here's how Reddit users reacted to u/lazy-fiancee's dilemma:

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Her decision was not influenced by anyone she knows.

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They both need to be prepared to make some sacrifices.

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She doesn't even know what her dream is.

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She could have chosen something like this, and it would have been a valid reason.

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Here's an example of someone with a productive lifestyle:

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They managed to accomplish so many things!

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Write a list if necessary.

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Very important tips about powdered milk.

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Calling her lazy is polite.

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She never brought it up during the three years they were together.

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One user pointed out that she might be experiencing problems at work.

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This user is currently going through a similar situation at their job and can relate to OP's wife.

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As long as both partners agree to something, there shouldn't really be a problem.

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They both liked the arrangement, so they decided to stick with it.

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This user shared the arrangement she has with her husband, and it seems like they make it work.

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If both people agree to the arrangement, it doesn't really concern anyone else.

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Mentioning it one month before the wedding is also a HUGE red flag.

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They both want different things now.

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Now you don't have to go through with it.

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He shouldn't allow her to trap him.

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Many people have that exact same dream. Shocker.

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It's clear that she hasn't figured that part out yet.

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Huge red flags all around; run.

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This user brought up something really important that most people forgot to mention.

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Reddit user r/MoonMacabre asked OP a very important question:

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She has a dream, though.

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OP replied to r/MoonMacabre's question and clarified some points:

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Arrangements like the one OP's wife suggested are quite common; however, it's a huge red flag that she only mentioned it for the very first time one month before the wedding, despite them dating for three whole years. Matters like this should be agreed upon at the very beginning and cannot be randomly introduced after investing three years of your life in that relationship.

I hope OP makes the right decision, and if his wife is experiencing work-related issues, he should also look into that and try to understand what triggered this sudden change.