Guy Asks If He Is An Idiot For Boarding A Plane Without His Girlfriend Because She Just Told Him Her Passport Expired
They were at the boarding gate when she realized her passport had expired, even though he had reminded her several times to renew it. # r/AmItheA**hole
A Reddit post about a missed flight turned into a messy debate about passports, responsibility, and whether a partner should be expected to step in at the last minute. One man says he boarded a plane for a two-week trip to Southeast Asia after his girlfriend discovered, at the airport, that her passport had expired. The situation got even more awkward because he says this is part of a bigger pattern, where she struggles with basic adult tasks and he has started comparing her to his mother.
Now the internet is weighing in on whether he was justified, and the comments are not exactly gentle.
He says that he has been comparing his girlfriend to his mom. His dad left them when he was 11. Although his mom didn’t know English or ever paid a bill in her life, she managed to figure it out.
“She’s a f*cking legend, but this experience imprinted on me the need that any partner I have in the future has to be self-sufficient and capable of looking after themselves,” the OP wrote. “His girlfriend can’t hold a candle to mom.”
OP says that his girlfriend “doesn’t even know how to do basic sh*t like post a f*cking letter,” and after she got her first car, she didn’t want to learn how to care for it, which led to a severe breakdown because there was no oil in it. But the actual problem was this:
“We booked a holiday for two weeks to tour Southeast Asia. I asked her if her passport had at least a year left on it. She said yes. At the airport, she found out it was expired after I had a look at it. I asked why she hadn’t checked to renew it: her dad was the one who had sent the application in ten years ago, and she didn’t know it had to be sent in to be renewed (wtf?).”
The OP was furious, so he boarded the plane without his careless girlfriend:
“I returned from the holiday (she didn’t answer any of my calls or texts while I was abroad), and once I was back, she chewed me out for abandoning her at the airport (it’s a 20-minute train ride from our city center, and the terminus is at the airport). She said I should have double-checked her documentation since I know about this sort of stuff. I told her, sorry, but I’m not going to waste 3000 pounds because you didn’t bother to check the exact thing I asked you to. It’s really frustrating because I don’t want to treat a partner like a child, like my dad did with my mom.
AITA here?”
This basically sounds like a validation post, where the OP already knows what he thinks and just wants the internet to agree.
This basically seems like a “validation post,” or one where you are convinced you did the right thing, but you want approval from people on the internet.
The OP and this girl have been together for two years, and he is aware of what she’s like. Most people seem to agree he was nonetheless right, and she’s wrong for being angry:
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Also, this echoes the AITA poster debating whether to insist their partner buy a separate upgrade ticket.
The OP and this girl have been together for two years, and he is aware of what she’s like. Most people seem to agree he was nonetheless right, and she’s wrong for being angry:
There is a significant percentage of people that say “ESH” (Everyone Sucks Here) and ask OP why he is staying with his girlfriend.
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If the OP wants to be an adult, he should consider breaking up with this girl so she can find someone willing to take care of her, and he can find someone more independent.
What do you think? Who is right here? Share your thoughts in the comments section.
It’s a relationship mess, and the comments only made it sharper.
That “partner as a personal bank” feeling is real, see the Redditor who helped his girlfriend financially, then got treated like her bank.
