Man Calls Out His Family For Always Lying And Putting His Pregnant Wife At Risk

Pregnancy turns “just stop by for a minute” into a health gamble, and this Redditor’s family keeps rolling the dice anyway. The whole mess starts with a line that sounds sweet at first, “Dear lord, please heal the sick kiddos and make them feel better,” but it’s really the prelude to constant, inconvenient exposure.

OP says his relatives lie about whether their kids are sick, or at least fail to be honest, and then still expect everyone to show up. He’s trying to protect his pregnant wife and their baby, but he keeps getting pulled into meetups with the same “we didn’t ask if they were sick” problem, only now it’s about boundaries and risk, not politeness.

Now he’s stuck wondering if calling them out makes him the bad guy, or if they’re the ones who should have set the rules first.

The OP kicks off his story...

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“Dear lord, please heal the sick kiddos and make them feel better…”

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If they stop telling them things they need to know, they will start putting up boundaries

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When OP is hearing “please heal the sick kiddos” right before plans, it’s hard not to notice the pattern of relatives showing up anyway.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I want to be judged for confronting my family about this issue of potentially getting my wife and baby sick. I need to know if I’m the AH by making this a big deal.

As usual, the comments rolled in and below are a bunch of the topmost ones

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The OP keeps meeting up with them despite knowing they're inconsiderate

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They lied and they are the AHs

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There's a chance they aren't always sick

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That’s when OP’s “we don’t want to be around them when they are sick” boundary collides with their habit of meeting up like nothing changed.

This feels similar to the fed-up woman who snapped at her mom in a house frozen in grief.

Even the comments that speculate the kids might not always be sick don’t erase the fact OP says they lie and keep him guessing.

Somewhere in the comments, the OP had this to add...

We did not ask if they were sick, however I also see that as irrelevant, since we have already said we don’t want to be around them when they are sick.It’s like asking someone “hey you have gas in your car right?” every time you go to drive their car. At some point, it just gets ridiculous. I shouldn’t have to ask, you should just tell me you don’t have gas.

And the comments continues...

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The OP has a boundary about the sick kids

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The relatives are careless and selfish

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This Redditor Shares a similar experience that happened to them

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And once OP compares it to asking, “hey you have gas in your car,” the family’s “we didn’t think it mattered” attitude starts sounding pretty selfish.

OP's frustration and concern for his pregnant wife's health are understandable, given the circumstances. The family's lack of consideration and dishonesty have put them in a difficult situation.

OP's decision to have a heart-to-heart conversation is a step in the right direction.

It's essential for OP's family to understand the importance of prioritizing his wife's health during this critical period.

The family dinner might be the last place OP’s pregnant wife should be getting lied to.

Want a different kind of public blow-up? See how a grocery store line cut turned into shaming.

For that, read the stranger who cut the line and got publicly called out.