40 Things Men Had No Idea About Until They Started Living With A Woman
There is a lot that men just don't know or understand about women, but these things expose more than just what they don't know about women.
Some everyday discoveries hit harder than others, especially when they come from living under the same roof. For a lot of men, sharing a home with a woman turns into a crash course in the little things they never noticed before, from routines to products to the way space gets used.
This roundup comes from an AskMen Reddit thread asking, “What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?” The answers range from funny to surprisingly relatable, and they reveal just how many parts of daily life can feel completely different once two people start sharing it all.
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Here are 40 of the most memorable responses, and a few of them may hit closer to home than expected.
1. Pads, of course this is the first one.
"Fine, I'll say it. I always thought that pads operated like Band-Aids and they'd just slap them over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons, and I opened it and looked.The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her about that revelation because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it."
myepenisisbigger
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2. This one is sweet.
"When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies, and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not-so-crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you. You find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12-stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live in; it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating."
AndrogynousRain
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3. The one good bra.
"That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one, and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turns up missing or in the wrong drawer.Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?"
StillHereUBastards
4. Period panties
"I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except: Period Panties. I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too.Why the hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?"
saybeautifulthings
5. This is the one, guys.
"I learned that the bathroom can smell like soap, flowers, and coconut instead of like pee."
noclue_whatsoever
That first wave of comments goes straight for the basics.
6. Yes, pretty much two different events.
"Apparently, showering and washing your hair are separate events."
loercase
7. Only I'm allowed to put things where they don't go.
If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/ thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.
The_Bee_Sneeze
8. If you know, you know.
thetinystrawman
9. Why can't we just have pockets?
"Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married, and I'm still shocked by this."
Timothy5509
10. Another sweet one.
"What home feels like."
Deez_Noix
Then the thread shifts into the everyday stuff people never think about until they see it up close.
11. What do you do?
MeesterMeeseeks
12. The secret is out.
emotional_program
13. I mean, duh.
"Apparently, cleaning the toilet on a regular basis is much, much more important than I'd previously thought."
onelittleworld
14. Yep, and for absolutely no reason.
"Just how expensive and shoddy brands for women are."
BlackSunBeast
15. Plants, Plants, Plants!
"How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants, and my place feels so much more pleasant and relaxing."
the_monkey_of_lies
16. There's a wrong way to do just about anything.
"There is a wrong way to hang clothes to dry."
McDie88
17. This is so true, though. Unspoken women's rules.
Brianplease
18. Organization is key.
"They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars."
ciregno
19. Someone needs to solve this mystery.
"Hair ties actually disappear faster than missing socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer."
knewbie_one
20. Bobby pins. More bobby pins.
"No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more."
Sensitive-Cherry-398
A few of these comments are basically tiny household mysteries in disguise.
21. This is the best way to describe it.
"Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!"
ciregno
22. Women just have so many things to do in the shower.
TheDevilsAdvokaat
23. Women take it to the extreme sometimes.
"An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances can lead to a full-on reorganization of all the furniture in the house if you're not careful."
nothanksreddit2
24. Oops.
"The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG."
phat742
25. Ladies, is this true?
"You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold."
AKA_Studly
26. Some people take hours to get ready.
"Fancy makeup takes a long time."
thatnovaguy
27. Yep, probably.
"You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life."
colojason
28. I can definitely say that this is true.
"I never realized that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters— not even my damn underwear is mine anymore!"
Podlubnyi
29. Okay, this is funny.
Sudden_Ad_1674
30. Dishwasher usage is on restriction.
"I load the dishwasher so inefficiently that I'm no longer allowed to load it at all."
zathris
By this point, the comments are leaning hard into the chaos of shared space.
31. Another one. Oops.
"I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall."
Crunchy__frog
32. Never enough.
"That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions."
Sudden_Ad_1674
33. Moisturizer goes everywhere.
"That moisturizer goes on the body too."
thought-criminal-_
34. Bonus: You get to try new things.
TheDevilsAdvokaat
35. Women have more things than men, especially clothes.
"The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10."
TheDevilsAdvokaat
36. This is true.
"There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink."
cavemanfitz
37. It's inevitable.
redX009
38. Wait, who actually thinks this?
"To get rid of bangs, you don't just cut them off."
rushakenyan
39. And another one.
"When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain. If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?"
Professor_Brooks
40. But they clean fast.
"They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe."
MystikxHaze
Some women might be surprised by a few of these, but overall, I think these are valid things that men are learning from women. Women tend to be a bit particular; we can't deny it.
Did you learn anything new from this thread? Let us know and share with a friend to get their reaction.
Turns out, living together teaches people a lot faster than they expect.
