Men Reveal The Stigmas They Are The Most Sick Of And Most People Had No Idea

It's a tale as old as time. Men should be this, men should be that. Blah Blah Blah.

The facts are in, and they don't look good. But they DO point out the obvious. We dismiss too much as a collective society when it comes to men and their feelings. Here's some side by side stats.

"Suicide Statistics reveal that women are roughly three times more likely to attempt suicide, though men are two to four times more likely to die from suicide."

So let's be explicitly clear here: men have feelings, and they should be validated JUST as much as women's.

Let's change those stats folks.

Let's work hard to be more aware of everyone's feelings.

Men are human too.

1. Y'all for real stop with this. He's a PARENT.

I hate when I hear from someone when I have my kids and my wife is working that I’m “babysitting”. It drives me insane. I don’t babysit. I’m raising my kids, I’m not a volunteer or a hired hand. Ugh.—FlaFlaFooey

2. Solidifying men's feelings is so important. It's 2020. Time to accept ALL humans have emotions.

The notion that men express their feelings solely to manipulate women into intimacy is a harmful stereotype. Dr. Jonathan Haidt, a social psychologist, emphasizes that "vulnerability is a fundamental aspect of human connection, not a strategic maneuver." This perspective highlights the importance of genuine emotional expression in relationships. Understanding this can help dismantle the stigma surrounding men's emotional openness. —Dr. Jonathan Haidt

3. My husband is a pro at being a multitasking busy body. They exist.

‘Men can’t multitask.’ Every time I hear that I have to stop what I am doing so I can get angry —insanebabyd

4. There's more to life than sex..

“The stereotype that men think about sex every few seconds is not only inaccurate but also diminishes the complexity of men's thoughts and emotions.” —Dr. Ian Kerner, sex therapist

5. Like when they sleep!

Erections can often be misunderstood as a direct indication of sexual desire, yet they can occur spontaneously and without sexual intent. As Dr. Laura Berman, a renowned sex therapist, states, "Erections are a natural physiological response and can happen for a variety of reasons, not just sexual arousal." Understanding this can help dismantle the stigma surrounding male sexuality. For more insights, visit Dr. Laura Berman.

6. Double standard!! I totally get it!

Me having big feet only means that I wear big shoes. It's interesting how societal norms lead people to make assumptions based on physical attributes. As Dr. Laura Berman, a renowned sex therapist, states, "People often feel entitled to comment on others' bodies, but it's essential to respect personal boundaries." —Dr. Laura Berman

7. They'd be all the dead.

The notion that exposure to radiation could grant superpowers is a common myth, as Dr. Angela Duckworth, a renowned psychologist, explains, "The reality is that radiation exposure is harmful and can lead to serious health issues, rather than any fantastical abilities." Most men, like everyone else, would face dire consequences in such scenarios. —Dr. Angela Duckworth

8. WTF?! LOL

The stigma surrounding men who express affection for children without being fathers can be quite harsh. As noted by Dr. Lawrence Cohen, a child psychologist, "Men often face unfair scrutiny when they show care for children, which can lead to misconceptions about their intentions." This double standard is perplexing, especially since similar scrutiny isn't applied to those who love pets. "No one questions a man's affection for dogs, yet the same warmth towards children is often met with suspicion," he adds. —Dr. Lawrence Cohen

9. Again with the double standard.

Men can’t be abused by women — Dr. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author, states, "Abuse knows no gender. It is a complex issue that can affect anyone, regardless of their identity." Understanding that men can also be victims of abuse is crucial in breaking down harmful stereotypes and stigmas surrounding masculinity.

10. Let's do this! TOGETHER!

That we’re all not interested in or incapable of being involved in the planning of our weddings.

I cannot tell you how many comments like “Remember, it’s her day, not yours!” I received during the 2-year lead-up to our wedding. I’m not going to lie to you and say I’d been looking forward to getting married since I was 12 or something but I took an active interest together with my wife in the planning of our wedding. “It’s not my day, it’s hers?” F*ck that. It was our day. We planned it together. Her vision definitely brought it all together and she did a f*cking astounding job, but she didn’t just make decisions on her own, we talked together about and worked together on every single thing involved in the event; and we were both ecstatic with how it turned out. It turned out beautifully. I try not to toot my own horn very often but I never thought the best party I’d ever go to would end up being my own! —LeanMeanWeenMachine

11. They've got this!

It’s getting better now, but back in the day basically every guy on TV was a sports-obsessed, car/motorcycle loving, beer swilling moron who couldn’t function without his wife to look after him and the kids. As relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon notes, "Media representations often reinforce outdated stereotypes about masculinity and dependency." My wife went away last week for work and I’ll have you know that only half my kids got eaten by wolves. —Dr. Alexandra Solomon

12. THIS! It disgusts me when people insinuate anything close to this. Especially to my kids!

This whole “be a man” schtick that leads guys to internalize their problems and marinate in their own issues and neglect their mental health drives me nuts. Dr. Daniel Goleman, an expert in emotional intelligence, emphasizes that “men often feel pressured to suppress their emotions, which can lead to serious mental health issues.” It took me a long time to find female friends just so I’d feel comfortable talking about my depression and get advice on how to get the help I need. If I did not, I would without a doubt be dead right now. I stamp this thinking out wherever I can find it. It was almost the death of me. —Dr. Daniel Goleman

13. I totally understand his viewpoint.

While I appreciate the beauty of nude women and enjoy the art of dance, the allure of strip clubs is lost on me. It feels like a facade; the performers are feigning interest purely for financial gain, which I respect, but it doesn't resonate with me. As Dr. Laura Berman, a renowned sex therapist, notes, "The transactional nature of strip clubs can often lead to a disconnect between fantasy and reality, leaving some feeling unfulfilled." You can learn more about her insights at Dr. Laura Berman.

14. Damn Linda!

"The stigma around fruity drinks being associated with femininity is outdated. Enjoying a strawberry daiquiri or any drink should be about personal preference, not gender norms," says Dr. Alexandra Solomon, relationship therapist. "It's essential to break free from these stereotypes to foster a more inclusive environment for everyone." —

15. They're a lot of horny.

The stereotype that men would engage in sexual activity with anything that has a heartbeat is fundamentally flawed. As Dr. Sue Johnson, a leading couples therapy pioneer, states, "Men, like women, seek meaningful connections and intimacy, not just physical encounters." This misconception oversimplifies the complexities of male sexuality. —Dr. Sue Johnson

16. GASP humans have emotions!

That we are not afraid of walking alone through a dark car park at night. Dr. Paul Bloom, a psychology professor and author, states, "Fear is a natural response to perceived danger, and it’s important to acknowledge that even the bravest individuals experience it." Additionally, Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, an emotion researcher, emphasizes that "emotions like fear are complex and can vary greatly from person to person." These insights highlight that the notion of fearlessness in such situations is often a misconception. —Dr. Paul Bloom | Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett

17. No. BOYS like to brag about cheating. Men do not.

That men find it normal to cheat and brag about it. —Dr. Alexandra Solomon, relationship therapist, emphasizes that "the normalization of infidelity in some circles can lead to a toxic culture where honesty and commitment are undervalued." She further explains that "when men feel pressure to conform to these behaviors, it can create a cycle of distrust and emotional disconnection." This perspective highlights the importance of fostering healthy relationship dynamics and addressing harmful societal expectations.

18. I couldn't resist hahahaha. ALL THE YES.

We are less mature than women, no exceptions —Dr. Alexandra Solomon, relationship therapist states, "Men often face societal pressures that can hinder emotional maturity, leading to misconceptions about their capabilities." This sentiment is echoed by Dr. Esther Perel, couples therapist, who emphasizes that "cultural narratives can shape our understanding of maturity in gender roles."

19. Men are 110% insecure about their bodies. Some just hide it better than others.

That only women suffer from negative body sterotyping. Really? REALLY? I grew up in the 80s. Have not seen He-Man? Schwartzenegger, Fabio, Jason Momoa…—varthalon

20. Thank goodness my husband actually answers this question haha.

When women ask “what are you thinking about?”, and you reply with “nothing”, it’s often true. As Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist, states, “Men can sometimes have a more straightforward thought process, leading to moments where they genuinely think about nothing.” This realization can be enlightening for partners, as it highlights that the trivial thoughts men may have can easily slip away when interrupted. Dr. Durvasula emphasizes that “the pressure to share thoughts can sometimes lead to a reluctance to communicate, especially if those thoughts seem insignificant.” —Dr. Ramani Durvasula

21. Best believe they are NOT!

“All men are the same.”

God, I wish. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve been to a stupid event with my girlfriend and she disappears and I’m left hanging out with the other boyfriends and husbands and there’s nothing for us to talk about.

I’m not into car sh*t or sports or any other basic male activities.

All men are not the same. —Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist states, “Men and women have unique ways of connecting and communicating, and it’s essential to recognize these differences to foster better relationships.”

22. Communication is key but both party's can suck at it and both can be great!

The notion that men are worse communicators than women is overly simplistic and varies greatly among individuals. As Dr. John Gray, relationship author and expert, states, "Communication styles differ between individuals, not strictly by gender." This perspective highlights the importance of understanding personal communication preferences rather than adhering to broad stereotypes. For more insights, visit Dr. John Gray's website.

23. Not interested can be detected real quick!

That we miss signs that women give them because they are stupid. We see them, but we don’t want to be creepy/jump to conclusions. Edit: Or we are not interested—Trevor-On-Reddit

24. Cut them a little slack!

That we can never NOT be in the mood and if we are, we must be sick or cheating.—Dr. Alexandra Solomon, relationship therapist states, "The idea that men are always ready for sex is a harmful stereotype that overlooks emotional and physical factors that can affect desire." This sentiment is echoed by Dr. Ian Kerner, sex therapist, who emphasizes that "men, like women, experience fluctuations in libido influenced by stress, health, and emotional connection." These insights highlight the need to challenge outdated myths surrounding male sexuality.

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