Drama Ensues After Woman Installs Gate To Prevent Surprise Visits From Egocentric Mother-In-Law
Some people just can't take a hint.
Some family members treat a front door like a suggestion, not a boundary. For one woman on Mumsnet, that meant dealing with a mother-in-law who kept turning up unannounced and acting as if it was completely normal.
The poster said surprise visits had become a regular part of family life, even though she and her husband clearly wanted more space. After repeated calls, constant drop-ins, and plenty of frustration, she decided to install a gate to make access harder.
That move sparked even more drama, and the reactions were split. Now the question is whether she finally found a solution, or just made the situation louder.
OP's mother-in-law doesn't respect personal boundaries and constantly invades their space.
guystuffcounseling (NOT THE ACTUAL PHOTO)Here's the original post from the Mumsnet forum:
mumsnetSurprise visits are pretty much routine in DH's family.
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OP's mother-in-law thinks her surprise visits are perfectly normal.
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That's when the situation started to feel impossible.
When it got too annoying, OP had no choice but to do something about it.
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The mother-in-law will even call if no one is answering.
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She just doesn't seem to get it.
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The MIL makes everything about her.
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Her constant rambling is the only thing she has to offer.
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Texting five minutes before showing up is not the way to do it.
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OP decided to change the way she deals with her MIL but isn't sure if it's the right thing to do.
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The Mumsnet crowd had plenty to say about it.
This is similar to a couple fighting over whether their mother-in-law gets unrestricted access to their home.
Here's how the community in Mumsnet reacted to OP's dilemma:
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The husband should've taken care of this problem a long time ago.
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It might not be enough to deter her from the surprise visits.
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OP should resume doing whatever she was doing and disregard her.
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This is the only solution.
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It might take much more than that to get rid of her.
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The husband needs to set healthy boundaries with her.
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Another commenter put some of the blame on OP, too.
This user put some of the blame on OP as well:
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It's an easy solution.
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Just don't open the door.
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Some people think the answer is simple, but this family clearly does not.
Want the fallout after requesting space from in-laws, read what happened when weekly visits kept coming?
