Redditors Tell A Woman To Grow A Backbone And Stop Her Mother-In-Law From Controlling Her Things
Either she leaves with her husband or confronts her mother-in-law.
Some family tensions start with money, but this one began with a simple question of ownership. A woman on Reddit says her mother-in-law keeps taking items she bought for herself and setting them aside as gifts for other people.
The situation gets messier because the original poster says she still has a good relationship with her mother-in-law, even though the behavior feels controlling and unfair. Her husband and the household arrangement only make the dynamic harder to ignore.
Reddit had plenty to say once the post went up, and most of it was not gentle. Read on.
The original poster and her husband provided what the mother-in-law needs and beyond.
RedditWhile the relationship between the original poster and the mother-in-law is great, there is still an issue.
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The mother-in-law contributes some, but takes beyond what she contributed.
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The mother-in-law does the same thing in multiple situations.
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The mother-in-law has unrealistic expectations.
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Redditors quickly noticed a pattern.
The situations just make you shake your head.
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This is actually a sound solution.
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But the mother-in-law has her ways.
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Grow a backbone, says this user. Other users agree with this sentiment.
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That comment set off a wave of agreement.
Perhaps this Redditor is right.
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The point here is to hide the stuff.
The mother-in-law expects that there will be body wash and candles. The original poster needs to stop buying them.
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To completely stop the problem, the solution is to move out.
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Use the money for the move instead. Don't spend it on candles, body wash, and crafts.
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Sadly, this solution doesn't work, according to the original poster.
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Even then, the replies kept coming.
Sometimes it takes confrontation to solve the problem.
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However, this user doesn't agree with confrontation. Leaving is the best solution.
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Despite what the mother-in-law is doing, the original poster is still concerned about her.
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Perhaps it's best if she buys things just for herself.
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Yeah, she's too greedy.
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It's probably best to stop spending money on the mother-in-law too.
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It's a situation that will only improve with time.
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People agree that the mother-in-law isn't as great as the original poster claims her to be.
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Perhaps she needs a wake-up call while the couple is still living with them. The original poster has to make some changes to her buying behavior, though.
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It's ultimately the original poster's decision to make.
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Others aren't too impressed with her buying habits.
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Indeed, the original poster has all the means to set her own stuff aside. She has the money, after all!
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Redditors didn't like the original poster's enabling behavior.
It seems that she's too afraid to make a move. Ultimately, she has to cut back on her purchases and find a way to stop her mother-in-law from hoarding her own things.
What do you think about this situation? Should the Redditor confront her mother-in-law?
She may need to draw the line before this gets even messier.
Want another mother-in-law power struggle? See why she got no bailout after her shopping addiction left her broke.
