Musician Faces Backlash After Venting About Delayed Order to Friends

A musician got hit with backlash from his own friend group after he vented about a delayed gear order. It wasn’t a dramatic public rant either, just a conversation at a get-together where he mentioned his European company’s months of “back and forth” delays.

Here’s where it gets messy. He’d sold other equipment to afford the piece, dropped about a grand, and tried to stay patient because tariffs and geopolitical issues are real. But when his musician friend’s new girlfriend jumped in, she called him selfish, arguing that he should care more about Iran and WW3 than about gear arriving late.

Now the question is not whether world events matter, it’s whether bringing up one frustrating delay can suddenly make you the bad guy.

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Musician here. I ordered a piece of gear last Fall that I was supposed to receive in a month (company is European).

Gave some grace to the company because of tariffs and geopolitical issues but their communication also sucks so it’s been a back and forth for months. Been pretty annoyed about it for a while because I sold a bunch of gear to get this piece and dropped about a grand on it.

Anyways, went to a get together with friends and I ended up bringing it up with another musician friend there. Other buddy's new girlfriend called me out for being selfish and talking about how we should be worried more about Iran and WW3 and not gear.

I said that they don’t have anything to do with each other, I ordered this months ago and my order doesn’t mean I’m not concerned about the state of the world like everyone else. She said it was still selfish to bring it up now and that spending 1000 in gear was inherently selfish.

We had it out and she left in a funk. Honestly feel like she was taking stress out on me which I get in these times but it felt unfair to target me.

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It also echoes the OP debating whether to break family tradition and donate a vintage heirloom watch.

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OP was just trying to explain the delay to another musician friend when the new girlfriend cut in with the Iran and WW3 line.

After OP said the order was already months old and didn’t cancel his concern for the world, the girlfriend doubled down that it was still “inherently selfish.”

The argument escalated fast, because OP wasn’t talking theory, he was talking about selling gear and paying about a grand for something that still hadn’t shown up.

When she left in a funk, OP was left wondering if she was really mad at him, or just using his delayed order like a stress outlet.

What do you think about this situation? Let us know in the comments.

He might not have started the world-ending debate, but he definitely ended the night as the villain.

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