Neighbors Boyfriend Making a Mess in Shared Bathroom: Should I Report Him?

Nothing makes a dorm bathroom feel smaller than walking in after someone’s boyfriend “just stopped by” and finding the toilet looking like it survived a war. In this case, it’s not a one-off mess, it’s a daily pattern that leaves the OP (19F) and her roommate (18F) dealing with the aftermath and the gross mystery of what they’ve seen on the toilet and floor.

The complication is that the neighbor (19F) keeps bringing over her boyfriend (19?M), and every time he visits, urine is left behind. The OP says they already talked to the neighbor, filed multiple reports to the RA, and even have pictures and videos, including footage of him trying to force himself into the bathroom while OP was inside.

Now the OP is stuck between reporting to campus security and worrying it will cross a line, while the bathroom keeps getting trashed.

Original Post

Hi reddit, i’m a long time lurker and this is my first time posting sorry if it’s weird. i (19F) am dorming in my college for the first time and me and my roommate (18F) have noticed this semester that we’ve been having issues with our shared bathroom.

we have a neighbor (19F) who’s been frequently bringing over her bf (19?M) and every time he visits we notice that that the toilet tends to be covered in urine afterwards. we originally talked to the girl and she said she’d talked to her bf, but afterwards it just continued and now happens on a daily occurrence.

there was even times where my roommate and i would walk in and see a white substance on the toilet and floor (i wish to not know what it is) both of us have sent several reports to the RA but nothing could be done because he doesn’t live in the building. i have pictures and videos still of a lot of these incidents (i also have videos of him trying to force himself into the bathroom while i was inside but that’s an entirely different situation i’ve already reported) and i’m considering reporting this to campus security but im not sure if that would over stepping anything.

i’m at my wits end because i’ve reported it to the RA, i talked to the girl more than once, but this keeps happening and im disgusted

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The RA reports didn’t stop anything, because the boyfriend doesn’t live in the building, so the mess just kept resetting every day.

After the neighbor promised she’d talk to her boyfriend, the toilet still ended up covered in urine, and OP and her roommate kept finding white substance on the floor too.

The scariest part is the video OP has of him trying to force his way into the bathroom while she was inside, which turns “gross” into “what if.”

With more evidence than just complaints, OP has to decide whether campus security is the next step, or if she’ll be blamed for “overreacting” to the neighbor’s boyfriend.

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.

The toilet keeps getting destroyed, and OP is running out of patience to pretend it’s not a pattern.

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